25 Divorce Lies You Should Never EVER Believe!


Let's not make divorce any worse than it has to be.

Maybe "lies" is a bit strong. Maybe you're more comfortable with the words "myths" or "stories." I was, when I originally titled this article, but the truth is, there are divorce lies out there. And many people suffer needlessly when they're trying to recover from divorce as a result of believing these untruths. If you're starting over again, don't let these lies influence you. 

I suffered from divorce recovery lies when I went through my divorce. I believed that all divorces were basically the same. I believed that I'd get over my divorce more quickly if I didn't think about it or allow myself to feel much anger about it. I believed that if I started dating that meant I must be over my divorce. I didn't understand they were lies then; I had to learn the hard way. I want to make sure that you don't fall for the lies like I did. I want to make sure that you're aware of them so you can call them what they are when they appear, and choose a different belief for yourself — your truth.


The difficulty is that the lies about divorce recovery are so pervasive, they can be hard to identify and avoid. That's because they are used to setting our expectations for what divorce recovery should be like. They become our guide for understanding how well we're doing with our divorce recovery. They can also dictate who we expect to get help from in working through our divorce.

Before I start listing the lies about divorce recovery, I want you to know the list isn't all-inclusive. These are just some of the ones I'm familiar with, but if someone's telling you a divorce fact that feels untrue, trust your intuition. 

Divorce Recovery Lies

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Dr Karen Finn

Divorce Coach

Dr. Karen Finn is a divorce coach and the owner of The Functional Divorce. She works with people through all the different life changes divorce creates so they can get to living the best of their lives.

She is the author of On the Road from Heartbreak to Happiness daily messages to help you help yourself heal from divorce.

Dr. Karen is happy to give you "The 5 Things You MUST Know About Your Divorce". In it you'll get the information you need to be prepared for how your divorce will change your life.



Location: Ovilla, TX
Credentials: PhD
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