6 Simple Things All Women Should Do On A First Date (If You Want To Get Asked Back Out!)

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How To Get A Guy To Like You- First Date Tips For How To Be Attractive To A New Man

If you're tired of having a lot of first dates but never getting anywhere with them, then it's time you learned not only how to get a guy to like you, but how to date!

Going on a first date can feel intimidating; you consider what you should talk about on a first date, or what to wear — on a first date, you don't really know what you're in for! — and you may worry so hard about whether or not he'll like you that you forget to have fun and be yourself.

You probably wonder what makes men tick, or what they find attractive in other women that you haven't already tried. Are there some rules of attraction you're missing out on?

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Men are subconsciously attracted to certain physical and personal attributes of women. They pursue women who grab their attention.

Men and women think differently, and for you to catch his attention, you need to understand how men think and what to do on a first date that will make him want to ask you out on a second.

Here are 6 first date tips about how to make a guy like you and catch his attention from the very start:

1. You need to dress to impress — for you and your date.

Physical appearance is a huge factor — especially on your first date — because men are visual creatures. You should impress the man you are dating the moment you walk in the room.

Make him feel that you exerted an effort in making yourself look good for your date.

Take care of your appearance. Use nice-smelling bath products and perfumes. Keep your hair and nails neat. Take care of your pearly whites and always keep your breath fresh; this is a must!

You should always have mints or breath fresheners on hand. Bad breath is a major turn-off.

Dress to kill, but keep in mind that you should always be comfortable with what you're wearing on your first date! If you feel and look good in your clothes, you’ll exude confidence, and men are attracted to confident women.

Learn how to choose clothes that flatter your body and fit you well.

2. Don't be afraid to give him honest compliments.

Men want to hear compliments, too! A simple, “I like your shirt,” compliment in your first conversation will make him feel at ease and boost his self-confidence.

Remember to be a bit flirty and cute when you tell him this.

If he tells a joke — and you find it genuinely funny — feel free to laugh and let him know you think he's funny. This will make him feel that you have the same sense of humor and that he makes you happy.

3. Don't hide your intelligence.

Men are attracted to women who can carry the conversation to a higher level by bringing topics or insights that are deep and substantial. Show him you're smart and that you can find solutions to your life’s challenges.

If you are really into him, it's better that you should know his interests and hobbies, too. Then casually start acquiring information and use what you have learned in your conversation.

If he plays guitar, learn how to play even with just the basics guitar chords. You may find online courses helpful if you want to learn something new, too, and many are free.

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4. Be spontaneous and carefree!

Who wants to be in a boring and monotonous relationship? Start being spontaneous and be excited to face your fears. Men are drawn to women who are adventurous because they imagine that they will always have fun together, even spur of the moment.

When a woman is happy and carefree, she instantly becomes attractive. Carefree doesn’t mean being careless; it means that you are worry-free and you're not attached to the outcome.

Men tend to enjoy their dates more when you are carefree because it creates a more relaxed atmosphere.

5. Share your passions and aspirations in life.

Men are impressed with women who are happy because they love their life. They want to see a woman who has an incredible life even without them. Your enthusiasm in life makes him want to be part of it and keeps him even more interested in you.

It is unusual for men to meet a woman who has a solid plan to reach their dreams in life, so this will be refreshing to him. Having a sense of direction in your life will make him attracted to you because it shows that you are responsible, confident, and you'll work hard for your goals no matter what.

6. Be "hard to get."

Don’t play hard to get — be hard to get. Men can smell women who are just acting too hard to get from miles away, and he will lose interest in you.

Be naturally challenging. Do this by being confident in yourself, knowing your worth, priorities, and standards. You should not invest in a man unless he starts investing in you, too.

Don’t be too overly available. When he asks you when you might be available on a date, don’t tell him that your schedule is wide open for him. You are already pleasing him, and now that he knows you really like him, he might lose interest in you or probably take things easy with you. Make him chase you.

If you really like him and he asks you to come home with him after a date, tell him that as much as you are attracted to him it is not your style to move that quickly; show him you have standards.

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