10 Ways To Feel Genuinely, Truly, Radiantly Happy (When It Feels Out Of Reach)

Think of a time in your life when you felt truly happy and optimistic. Was it just a fleeting moment? The good news is that learning how to find happiness that lasts is possible. The answer is right within you.

In our irrational world, it's easy to get caught up in the pressures of daily living. You are constantly bombarded with messages from social media and advertisers that you need more to be satisfied. You need more to be good enough. You need more to be a success.

How to find true and lasting happiness.

True happiness always seems to be just out of reach because you focus on what you don’t have, rather than what you do have. You get caught up in the materialism of our time that tells us, over and over, you need more — more money, more stuff, more accolades — in order to be happy.

In order to feel genuinely glad, you need to do get back to the basics.

My own personal definition of happiness:

A sense of well-being
To feel loved and accepted for who you are
The ability to do the things you like to do
To feel healthy
To know your purpose in life

Psychologist Abraham Maslow's hierarchy of needs is a theory that asserts that humans universally share these five basic needs:

Psychological needs: You need food, water, warmth, and rest. If you live In North America, Europe, the UK, Australia, and New Zealand, you most likely have your basic needs met.
Safety: You need security and shelter. If you are facing any form of violence, please get help from the police, non-profits, doctors, and therapist.
Social: You need Intimate relationships and rest.
Esteem: You need respect and a feeling of accomplishment.
Self-actualization: You need to achieve your full potential, including creative activities.

If you have a good life, but still don't feel happy, take a moment to reflect on how you meet your own needs. Are you getting all of the crucial ones met? If one of these is missing, how can you work on it?

Happiness is a choice. And in order to make that choice, you must learn how to be more present.

Here are 10 ways to feel genuinely, truly, radiantly happy (even if it feels out reach):

1. Meditate

Begin slowly with a few minutes every day.

There are many resources and apps out there to help you. One of my personal favorites is an app called Insight Timer.

2. Stay active

Do something you enjoy that helps you stay healthy, such as walking, singing, dancing, gardening, or whatever renews your energy.

3. Find a personal growth tool

There are many great personality typing tools out there to help you become more self-aware, such as the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator® (MBTI®) and the Enneagram. Keep trying new tools until you find one that resonates with you.

4. Breathe deeply

It is easy to get stuck in shallow breathing when you are under stress, but just a few deep breaths can relieve stress quickly.

5. Start a gratitude journal

Every day, write down what you are thankful for. It is hard to be miserable when you are feeling so grateful — a practice I call 'radical gratitude,' which changes the way you experience the world.

6. Risk following your heart

Find ways to do what you love. If you can’t find a job that enables you to do this, find an outlet outside of work.

7. Spend time in person with a good friend

Social media is not enough. Have them over for a meal, go for a walk, or enjoy a meal out together. Be real with them. Let them know how you are doing, and listen with an open heart and mind when they tell you their story in return.

8. Find your purpose

When you're down on yourself or feeling like something is missing in your life, strive to find out what it is. Do you know your purpose?

When you have difficulties, access help through a coach who can help you to discern what it is. Nobody but you can do this vital work, but you. You are the only expert on yourself.

9. Create a community

An excellent way to find more happiness and enjoyment in your life is by being part of some community, such as a club, church, synagogue, mosque, or temple. You are not meant to live alone. You need others to help support and encourage you. You need others to help you celebrate life.

10. Tap into your spiritual self

Remember that you are a spiritual being. You don’t have to be part of a religious institution to be spiritual.

Spirituality helps you to acknowledge that you are part of something more significant. It reminds you that we all are interconnected and that you are not alone. There are family, friends, spiritual communities, and professionals to help support and encourage you.