7 Serious Warning Signs That Someone You Love Has Narcissistic Rage

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What makes narcissistic rage different from normal anger issues?

Everybody becomes angry, sometimes — that’s just a part of the human experience. We hope it’s justified and balanced, based on an actual reason, and that the person is still in control enough to say, "I’m angry because…"

Some people have anger issues, and they should be taken seriously.

They become angrier than the situation seems to warrant (to other people) but are able to calm down and behave reasonably after a few minutes. Treatment can often be helpful to these people.

And then there are "those other people". The ones who get incredibly angry — so angry that other people don’t feel safe.

Those people are especially prone to fury at anything that would seem to them to threaten their own sense of self or self-esteem in any way.

This is "narcissistic rage" and it can severely affect their life — and the lives of those around them.

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If you suspect that someone you love has anger that is severe and out-of-proportion, especially while mostly revolving around themselves, you have a reason for concern.

If you find yourself walking on eggshells around them or around certain topics having to do with their actions or words, take a closer look.

Here are 7 signs of narcissistic rage to watch out for.

1. They have narcissistic tendencies or personality traits.

These can include self-aggrandizement, an apparently inflated sense of self-worth, egotistical behavior, and putting their own needs and desires above those of other people.

Narcissists often put others down to make themselves look better in their own eyes.

If narcissists you've seen in movies or in public life remind you of your friend or partner, this is a clue.

2. They express disapproval of groups of people to which they don't belong.

Narcissists will often express racism or other forms of bigotry. The need to be the "best" extends to their group, no matter what it is.

The more severely narcissistic the individual is, the more they feel that they're not getting the accolades, money, or whatever prize they deserve, the more blatant and nasty this becomes.

3. They don't respond well to supervision at work from people "less than" them.

Even if they do what their supervisor tells them to do, how do they describe the person and the incident? Are they still angry hours later?

While someone without narcissistic issues might be angry at true injustice, the narcissist will fume over relatively minor corrections or impositions.

Have they lost jobs due to refusal to do what the supervisor asks or having angry or dangerous outbursts at work? These are serious warning signs.

4. They have very intense road rage.

How do they behave behind the wheel if they're cut off or someone honks at them? Do they speed up, honk, "flip the bird", or do anything else that seems dangerous?

Have they caused any accidents this way or threatened anyone with bodily harm?

I was once nearly run off the road by someone I later learned had these tendencies because I drove my minivan "too close" to his truck.

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5. They don't see children as fully human.

If children are in their life, how do they treat the children? Narcissists don’t generally see other people, especially children, as fully human. They merely exist to satisfy the narcissist’s needs.

Do they play mean tricks or call the kids names or put them down, and then say they were only playing or the child is "too sensitive" or some such thing?

Do they expect superior grades and/or athletic ability or other attributes from the children, beyond the level of reason?

This would reflect glory on them, if it’s in an area about which the narcissist cares.

6. They respond negatively when you disagree with them.

How do they handle a disagreement with you? Does it depend on the subject of the disagreement?

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In other words, a narcissist will become significantly more outraged when their partner disagrees with them about something they see as a reflection of them, but they really don’t mind what you do or think in other areas.

For instance, when you choose some activity or even a job, it probably won’t bring much anger. But, they might become furious if you don’t want to entertain their friends or dress in a way they like for a party.

How do they act when you do disagree about something that actually matters to them? Do they insult you or threaten you in some way?

Do you avoid those disagreements and "go along to get along" out of fear or fatigue?

7. They've been in trouble with the law.

This can include aggression, fighting, road rage, or some other form of disorderly conduct. Was it because their ego was bruised in some way?

Narcissists often have difficulty controlling their rage in social or public situations in which they feel they're not getting the respect they deserve. Alcohol can add to this particular issue.

Narcissistic rage is real and it can erupt into something rather frightening.

If you can honestly say that someone you know fits three or more of these descriptions, they probably have narcissistic rage, not just anger issues.

This is unfortunate because it's much more difficult to change the behavior of a narcissist than that of a typical person who has trouble managing their angry feelings and reactions.

After all, their psychological condition means they are never really wrong, in their own minds. Even if they apologize, it’s usually more a punishment-avoidance tactic than sincere remorse.

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Nancie Barwick is a clinical hypnotherapist, author, speaker, and medical intuitive. For more information on her services, visit her website.