Women Want Money, Men Want Sex – Finding Your Spiritual Partner

We investigate finding a spiritual partner using the law of attraction


I recently overheard a conversation between two men at the gym. They sounded angry, bitter and jaded. I was use to hearing women complain like this, but not men, so of course, I listened closely. These men all agreed that all women are looking for is men with money. They talked about how they were sized up by their car and joked about how funny it would be to show up for dates with a rented Jag or Mercedes, and trick the women into believing that they had money. They supported each other’s belief that what was keeping women from them was the size of their paycheck. This conversation sounded exactly like the one that goes, “there are no good men around, all they want is sex….” As you can imagine, so many thoughts ran through my mind. Mostly I started to wonder, “Why do you think you are always attracting women who want only money?”


That got me thinking more about the “law of attraction.” The law of attraction is very basic: you are responsible for your own reality. What is in your life is there because you attracted it to you. Like attracts like. What you think about, what you talk about, what you fixate on, becomes your reality.

So the question becomes, what do you want to manifest in your life? Many of you may be familiar with the “I AM”. I AM stands for you being 100% one with God. If you are that intertwined with God, and God is omniscient, doesn’t it make sense that you also have unlimited power to manifest? If you are not enjoying the reality you have created, choose a new reality. It is not enough to just “want” something else, such as wanting a woman whose primary value is not money. It is about looking deeply at your own internal thoughts. Your thoughts vibrate and send out energy. They then become your belief system and your beliefs materialize in your world.


The law of attraction also holds that if you think about what you don’t want, that is what you will get. For example, if I constantly think, “I don’t want to be fat”, guess what, I’m attracting fat because that is precisely what I’m concentrating on. The men in the example above keep attracting women who only want men with money because they think that’s all that is out there and that has become their “belief” system.

Here’s an exercise for you: Close your eyes, breathe deeply a few times and ask, what have you always attracted into your life? Notice your belief systems around what you have attracted. Write down these attractions in the areas of relationship, money, and body. Is what you have attracted right now what you want to continue to attract? If not, then start with writing down what you want to attract. Focus on it, visualize it. Feel what it would feel like to have that in your life right now. (Make sure you are not feeling a “wanting” or “lack” of what you wish.) Make this part of your daily routine.

Have you been hurt in the past? Did you erect large walls around you to protect yourself from future hurts? I want to mention something about walls. How do you expect to become involved with a spiritual/conscious partner if you are not willing to be vulnerable and show your partner who you are? When your walls keep you separated from others, for protection, you reinforce those walls. Then you can say, “Well, I knew he/she wasn’t the one for me!” If you are hiding behind a wall, how would you expect to attract a spiritual partner? Why would a spiritual partner be attracted to walls?

What would it take for you to let down your walls?


Here is a hint…it is NOT about the other person you become involved with, it is about YOU. It is having enough trust in yourself that you can handle hurt, rejection, and abandonment. If you believe we are all “one”, then truly, who or what is the wall protecting you from? Are you the one on the inside or the outside? What if you are both?

Let’s go back to “I AM”. Another way to look at this is: I stands for “Intention”, A stands for “Attention or Action”, and M stands for “Manifestation”. So if you want to manifest something in your life, set the intention, pay attention to it with certain actions, and yes, it will manifest. See it, feel it, believe it.

Note: If a piece of you believes this and a piece of you believes the opposite, your vibration is not aligned and you will not create or manifest your desire. Clarity of thoughts and beliefs will go a long way. Allow your walls to come down, build beautiful fountains of desire and belief around you, and see what comes your way.


Lori S. Rubenstein, JD, PCC spent 18 years as a divorce attorney-mediator, however, her passion for helping others led her down the path of divorce, relationship and forgiveness coaching. She is the author of three transformational books and has a special gift of holding sacred space for people to transcend their “stories” and step into a new, more empowering life. Contact Lori now to set up a 15 minute consultation to learn how you can start to mend your own relationship hurts

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