4 Ways To Protect Yourself From A Narcissistic Crazy Maker's Drama & Emotional Abuse

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What Is Gaslighting In Relationships & How To Deal With A Narcissist Crazy Maker
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Everyone has at least one person that seems to know exactly what buttons to press to irritate or enrage them. You might have even wondered if you're dealing with gaslighting, a form of covert narcissism.

In short, they're a toxic person — what you might call a "crazy maker."

Crazy-making is a behavior that narcissists use to utterly drive you up the wall. It's a type of gaslighting in relationships, and it might make you constantly feel like you're on the losing end of a battle for your own sanity.

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While there are many types of narcissism, crazymakers are called that because they crave the drama that comes from their bad behavior. The crazier they can make you, the better.

I suggest before reading this, take the time to understand: It's not you. It's them.

They love to make you question how events really occurred, challenge your perception of their actions, and string you along to make you feel like you don't have any concept of the truth.

Crazy making is emotional abuse. Unfortunately, it happens more than you might realize since it can seem so innocent at first.

Now, that you recognize what a crazy maker is, here are some tips on how to deal with them.

If you've found yourself on the receiving end of a narcissistic crazymaker's gaslighting and emotional abuse, here's how to handle it:

1. Take an observer's point of view

There is something about detaching and seeing a crazy maker from an observer point of view that helps you not get entangled in their mess.

It is almost like listening to someone speaking a different language. All of a sudden, their attacks seem silly and confirm to you that they are dancing to a much different tune. Letting go can be the biggest power struggle deflator of all.

It can also save your sanity because you can stop yourself from engaging in a needless battle.

2. Maintain healthy self-worth

Sometimes you attract crazymakers in life because they reflect your own lack of self-worth. You let bullies bully you because you somehow feel you deserve it on some level.

You teach people how to treat you and often reinforce crazy-making behavior in your life by accepting it. Do not!

Start telling yourself you are worth more. You cannot really ask for something from somebody else if you aren't giving it to yourself first.

So, love and respect yourself. Be gentle with yourself — especially when dealing with a crazy maker. As proof, notice if the crazy maker in your life treats other people better than you. Pay attention and notice if those people exude a higher sense of self-worth. That might be a clue to improve your own self-worth through positive self-talk and care.

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3. Keep a healthy distance from the drama

Do you really have to have a crazy maker in your life? Can you just keep a healthy distance? Are you in a trap of believing that you will be worth more if the crazy maker finally treats you better? They probably will not so do not be afraid to move on.

Crazy makers (narcissists) need an audience to maintain drama, they are dependent. You are the dance partner in their crazy-making dance and you can choose to stop dancing with them at any time. There are other jobs and other friends and other lovers that are healthy.

If it is a relative, you can still keep a healthy distance. Keep visits short and reward yourself afterward with nurturing care and positive self-talk.

4. Cultivate your inner strength and use it

Sometimes people will not play fair. They will use crazy-making tactics and engage in power struggles to feel better about themselves. You can play into it and escalate the battle or you can take the higher road.

Taking the higher road includes finding internal strength. What does internal strength feel like? Well, it begins with you placing your needs above the crazymakers. You get in touch with what you really want.

Inside, you know that you want things to be different. You know that you want to be treated better and deserve to be treated better.

Who is this person? This person that gets to be in control of what you do, how you do it and how you feel?

Tap into yourself. Set your boundaries. Be clear. Do not let fear lead your choices. People cannot drain you if you do not allow them to — and certainly if you are not available to them.

Say no to crazymakers and yes to yourself.

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Doren Weinstein is a certified life and relationship coach who received her certification from The Institute for Life Coach Training (ILTC) in 2003. To learn more, visit her website.

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