5 Ways To Heal From A Breakup With Mindfulness

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You can learn how to get over a breakup with mindfulness. It may sound impossible, but you can get make it to the other side — even when it feels like it will never end.

Everyone's been there, wondering if the pain will ever stop. How did it go on for so long? How did you let things get so out of hand?

It's easy to blame yourself, but it's important to not beat yourself up. Remember: We all make mistakes.

Humans need to feel connected to others, which is why everyone wants to be in a relationship. But sometimes, this drive can keep you stay with the wrong person for far too long.

The good news is that now you know what you don't like.

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Breakups give you wisdom. Never underestimate wisdom.

Wisdom is something we all need. You can use this moving forward, especially, when you decide that you're ready to start looking for love again.

It's important to take a look at your mindset before you get back in the game, again. Mindfulness is a great practice to help you make better choices for yourself.

Here are 5 ways to get over a breakup and heal by practicing mindfulness. 

1. Do nothing.

Mindfulness makes it alright to do nothing. When was the last time you sat in your backyard and did absolutely nothing?

You don't always have to be doing something. You shouldn't feel guilty when you're doing nothing.

Mindfulness is the art of doing nothing. All you have to do is breathe.

2. Set aside time for a mindfulness practice.

Mindfulness helps reduce anxiety and depression. Studies have found that having a mindfulness practice can help you manage anxiety and depression.

These disorders don't come with a simple fix. You need to do more than just take a pill.

When you add mindfulness to your lifestyle, you will feel better about yourself. It's important to stick to it.

If you're training for a marathon, it takes time and dedication. It's the same for mindfulness.

Even when you don't feel like doing it, make sure you set aside time for it the same way you would if you were training for a marathon.

3. Be responsible for your own self.

Mindfulness helps bring inner peace. A mindfulness practice will help you feel more relaxed. You will not be so hard on yourself or others. This can help change your mindset.

When you're criticized, you won't feel so defensive. You will learn to take responsibility for yourself.

I've been practicing mindfulness for many years. Over the years, I've seen a huge change in my mindset. It has helped get me through difficult times in life that I never could have predicted.

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4. Be present.

Mindfulness quiets the mind. It will help you stop overthinking. It's easy to worry about the future or never stop thinking about the mistakes you've made in the past.

Overthinking will keep you stuck. So, stay in the present. This will help stop the anxious chatter in your mind, as well as stop overthinking.

5. Slow down.

Mindfulness can help keep you focused. Everybody wants to feel productive these days. Maybe you sit in a cube at the office, where you can hear everything that's going on around you.

The guy next to you has an argument with his girlfriend on the phone. You really didn't want to hear every last detail, but you did.

You're on your computer all day and you sit under fluorescent light. All of this takes away from your focus.

Mindfulness helps slow down your heart rate, so you can focus and be more productive in the long run.

You can also add positive affirmations to your mindset. One of my favorites is, "I am enough."

Breakups are stressful. Mindfulness helps.

It's natural to feel stressed out when you're going through a breakup.

But you shouldn't always feel that way, and you should eventually be able to move on.

If you don't feel that you can move on, then you should seek professional help.

Allowing your mind to relax and do nothing is good for your mental health. So, make sure that you make time for it.

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Lianne Avila is a marriage & family therapist helping singles in San Mateo, CA who are looking for support finding love. Please subscribe to Lianne’s newsletter on Lessons for Love to learn more about her services and expertise.

This article was originally published at Lessons for Love. Reprinted with permission from the author.