Self, Heartbreak

I Found Happiness After Trauma (And You Can, Too)

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My father was 33 when he died. I remember him as a happy man. I was 8 and the oldest of six children. My mother became seriously ill, and we went to an orphanage for many years. The nuns were very strict and serious and did not allow space for happiness to occur. And so, the carefree and fun part of my childhood was over at eight.

As adults (and more especially as children) we absorb the moods of those around us. I felt guilty if I had moments of happiness when my mother was grieving and ill. If people around us are unhappy, it is difficult to go against that negative tide.

Later, with the help of psychotherapy, I was able to resolve my grief, which was essential to learning how to be happy again. I've healed personally (and professionally I have witnessed others do the same). I know that freeing yourself from the weight of trauma and loss is possible.

Some people, who have experienced trauma or losses, often have an inner knowing that they can survive the hard stuff, and therefore never think to lean away from it. When the slings and arrows of life come, some people come out of the rubble more resilient and accepting, while others of us need outside help, but either way, the first step toward returning to happiness again is the decision to change the situation. If you cannot do so on your own, seek professional help. Psychotherapy does not have to take a long time. Grief, when unresolved and not accepted, interferes with potential happiness.

When life sends us howling hurts, our ability to turn the struggle upside down is dependent on our willingness to be vulnerable, to face losses, and resolve grief. As you become free of emotional pain, you can be happy again (or, in some cases, for the first time).

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