4 Reasons To Have A Father-Daughter Sex Talk

New research explains the importance of fathers talking to their daughters about sex.

4 Reasons To Have A Father-Daughter Sex Talk [EXPERT]

A new study shows when dads talk with their children about sex, those children have less sex during adolescence. While it's traditional in many families for the mother to talk to her daughters and for the father to talk to his sons, here are at least four reasons why it is important for fathers to also talk to their daughters about sex:

1. Research shows when fathers give their daughters the talk, their little girls have less sex when they're older. The first reason is the most obvious. If fathers talk to their daughters about sex, according to the research, they will have less sex during their adolescent years. This also means there will be less STDs and teen pregnancies. This can only be a positive thing as we think about our teen's sexual health and their lack of necessary maturity to make decisions about adoption, abortion and raising a family.


2. Women and men have a different understanding of sex. Have you ever noticed that boys and girls think about and treat sex differently? Generally speaking, girls tend to equate sex with love, while boys are better equipped to separate the act of sex from their emotions. Since women are not like this, it is difficult for mothers to understand it and even more difficult for them to explain it to their daughters.

Daughters may also have a difficult time believing their mothers when moms are talking about what sex is like for boys. Girls will trust this information better coming from their fathers. When girls hear about these differences from their fathers, they will be better prepared and know what things to look for in their potential dates.


3. A close father-daughter relationship makes a huge difference. When girls are close with their fathers and they are able to talk about practically anything including sex, those girls are not experiencing a void in their lives from an absentee father. Dads can live in the same home with their daughters but if they never have any quality time together, then it can feel as if they don't even have a dad. When girls do not have close relationships with a father figure, they tend to seek a boyfriend to fill that void, often getting into physically intimate relationships before they are emotionally ready to cope with the implications of those relationships.

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4. Daughters who have positive relationships with their fathers have higher self-esteem. When a dad can talk with his daughter about sex, that implies a particular type of closeness between father and daughter. Daughters with positive relationships with their fathers have higher self-esteem and are more confident in the world. They will be less likely to succumb to peer pressure because they are more secure in who they are.

So moms, don't stop talking with your daughters about sex. That is still important. You probably also want to talk to your sons about relationships, particularly the female perspective of relationships. But dads, the research is in and your children, particularly your daughters, need your perspective also.


Help them understand how different boys are from girls. While they may never "agree" with the way boys are, at least help them to understand a boy's perspective. Help her to know the signs to look for when a boy is truly interested in who she is as a person. Don't allow your daughter to be the victim of a boy who is just looking for a "good time."

She will not learn that from other girls. She will not really learn that from her mother. She needs her father's perspective to help guide her and to recognize her value and worth as a woman and not just a sexual object. Let her know how important she is to you, the value you place on her and the very special place she holds in your heart. Don't let her settle for less. Arm her with information.