Love, Sex

Advice: My Girlfriend Is Afraid Of Sex

Esther Perel, author of Mating in Captivity, answers a question from Ask YourTango, where readers go to seek out advice on love and relationships. In this segment, a man asks if he should leave his 42-year-old girlfriend, who is a virgin and afraid to have sex. While she has been going to therapy for years, she remains unable to take that final step, and keeps telling her man that things will get better. But will they ever change? Perel explores the possible causes of such a phobia, and imparts some valuable advice. 

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