The 5 Best Dating Tips For INTP Men
How does an INTP man win the game of love?
Getty You might be wondering, "What are INTP men?"
If you’re familiar with the Meyers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI) personality test, the type "INTP" stands for "Introversion, Intuition, Thinking, and Perceiving."
If you’re an introverted male, this is likely your personality type.
Dating as an INTP man may not come naturally to you and that’s OK. Being true to yourself is the most important factor to consider when it comes to dating.
When you play to your strengths, you’re more likely to find the right woman for you.
Here are the 5 best dating tips for INTP men, so you can get out there with confidence!
1. Give online dating a shot.
Many INTP men find online dating to be the most comfortable option. Meeting women online allows you to be yourself in the comfort of your own home.
You can also get to know her better before setting up an in-person date. When you do meet in person, you’ll feel at ease knowing more about her.
2. Plan a date in a comfortable environment.
The best way to feel the most secure is to plan a date where you're most comfortable. Perhaps, you’re a regular at the coffee shop in town. Or maybe you know a beautiful spot in the park for a picnic.
When you’re more aware of your surroundings, it’s easier to feel relaxed and confident. Take the opportunity to show her some of your favorite venues, as this will let her discover more about your personality and preferences!
3. Meet women at places you feel most in your "element."
If you’re an INTP male, hanging out at a bar is probably not the best way to meet someone who will compliment your personality type.
Spend an afternoon looking around a local museum, bookstore, or any place you can exercise the "thinking" and "perceiving" aspects of your personality.
When you reward your mind with a familiar feeling, and one that you excel at, you’re much more approachable. Compared to being at a loud, crowded bar, you will feel much more relaxed and at ease.
Meeting women in your element is the best way to find someone whom you’ll most likely get along with.
4. Challenge yourself!
While it’s understandable if you prefer to default to your most natural state, it’s important to challenge yourself as well. You can do this by striking up a conversation with a woman in the grocery store or attending your company happy hour.
No matter who you are — introverts or extroverts alike — you have your own comfort zone that you tend to stay inside.
When you encourage yourself to come "out of your shell" and consider something new, you may be surprised at how many women you meet!
5. Put yourself first.
The most important element to a successful and healthy dating life is putting yourself first. Dating can sometimes feel a bit draining for an INTP man. That’s totally understandable.
Having a heightened sense of awareness of your surroundings and what you’re saying can be mentally and physically taxing.
Don’t forget to take care of yourself! Introverts recharge with alone time, so you’ll want to make sure you provide yourself with enough of that so you can be your best.
This way, you’ll attract more women that are well-matched for you.
There is no catch-all dating formula for any personality type, even INTP men. But playing to your strengths will help you attract the right partner in the end.
Sarah Jones, founder of Introverted Alpha, is a dating coach specializing in introverted men. Since 2014, she has written countless articles to help bring out her readers' most attractive qualities.