6 Steps To Calm Stress When The Coronavirus Crisis Has You Feeling Frazzled

Alleviate your stress during this pandemic.

By Ingrid Helander — Written on Apr 07, 2020

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6 Steps To Calm Stress When The Coronavirus Crisis Has You Feeling Frazzled

During this crisis of the global COVID-19 coronavirus pandemic, many of us are feeling stressed out and frazzled — no matter if the stress is chronic or not.

Let’s face it: Our mental health suffers and we become even more stressed out when we have to deal with scary, frustrating, uncontrollable, and repetitive situations.

Like the bullied child who must walk into the lunchroom daily, we brace ourselves over and over trying to just keep moving forward and wishing it would stop.

I love the word "frazzled." To me, it perfectly depicts that stressed-out sensation.

"Frazzled" is defined by Merriam-Webster as "in a state of extreme physical or nervous fatigue and agitation," "damaged or weakened by strain or agitation," and "frayed."

Picture the end of a worn-out rope — unraveling, weak, and severed from the whole.

Have your fears and frustrations led you to a frazzled, stressed-out state? There is hope.

Here are some normal symptoms of being completely stressed out:

You feel like there are many things you could or should do, but you are frozen, numb, or confused.
Self-criticism is commonplace, you compare yourself to others who you think handle things better.
You have a strong sensation of impending doom and dread, but you’re not really sure what you’re waiting for.
The old things you used to worry about still feel relevant, but you can hardly remember what they are.
The desire to control everything around you — your food, schedule, other people — is more obvious than usual.
You prefer to disappear in sleep or mindless activity.
Tempers are running hot. You snap at others and feel out of control about your emotions.
Body aches, including stomach aches and pain, persist.
You are exhausted mentally and physically.

For some people, feeling this stressed out is a new sensation. For others, it is a way of life that is now heightened.

If you have any of the symptoms above, slow down and listen to yourself.

Many schools of thought encourage you to "pump yourself up" and convince yourself that everything is just fine.

You may feel like you are wrong, extreme or damaged because of stressed-out feelings. But this is not true.

In fact, to push stressed-out feelings as far away as possible and simply pretend to move forward can cause more stress and damage.

Instead, you can create a daily morning routine or evening practice to alleviate the stress. Soon, your body and nervous system will begin to trust you more, even in the face of uncertainty.

In her book, "The Polyvagal Theory in Therapy: Engaging the Rhythm of Regulation," Deb Dana explains this ability for you to tone your nervous system.

By sustaining and fully feeling the sensation of genuine well-being for even minutes a day, your vagus nerve will become toned and more able to connect to safety and connection.

Here are 6 steps to calm stress when the coronavirus crisis has you feeling stressed and frazzled.

1. Breathe and pay attention to your body.

Refocusing from your outside world to your body’s internal sensations is the first step to calm your stress.

Begin by sending your focus into your body with slow, gentle breaths to help you get familiar with what this stressed-out sensation feels like, inside and out.

2. Define the feeling using one or all of these techniques:

Naming the feeling.

For example:

"Stressed out" is the electric-but-numb sensation in my brain.
"Stressed out" is the sense that my heart is tied in a tight little knot.
"Stressed out" is the racing sensation in my legs and nauseous feeling in my belly.

Whatever it feels like for you is your experience and perfectly fine.

Moving or vocalizing with the sensation.

Allow your body to move as if it is "stressed out."

How would the stressed-out sensation in you move if it could? Imagine this, or actually move and let your body show you.

You can also ask how does the stressed-out sensation sound? Allow the sounds to well up from where you feel the most stressed out in your body. (It can really feel good to try this out in privacy.)

You can moan and groan, make buzzing sounds, scream, and holler — let yourself express it! You may even want to make this a family activity.

Drawing the "stressed out" part of you.

If you’re feeling like an artist, draw a more realistic figure or other clear representation of this emotion.

Not an artist? Simply use shapes and colors to show you what your personal "stressed out" looks like.

3. Listen carefully to what the "stressed-out" feeling says.

Do not fall prey to anyone who suggests you ignore or oppose the parts of you that feel stressed out.

In order to make a shift, it is very important to observe and listen to any parts of you that feel frazzled.

Why? Because without acknowledgment and care, stress accumulates and overwhelms you. And in order to care for anything, you need to see and witness it.

Listen to your "stressed out" by being at least a little curious. Write down what the "stressed out" says that is so darn stressful.

Imagine loving eyes listening to this part of you and saying, "That makes all the sense in the world. Of course you feel stressed out."

Breathe deeply and allow this understanding, compassionate reality to support and surround your stress.

4. Allow a physical release.

As soon as you feel a little calmer or sense a tiny relaxation or spaciousness inside, hold this feeling in your body for a few breaths.

Give yourself a hug or smile. Breathe in and exhale deeply, allowing your body to release as much stress as you can.

Let your stressed-out experience inside recognize that it is not alone. You are present to your stress, listening, and understanding.

5. Check inside for a new feeling.