Here’s How To Get A Guy To Like You ( In 3 Simple Steps )

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Dating Advice For How To Get A Guy To Like You, Fall In Love, & Become Your Boyfriend

If you want to learn how to get a guy to like you and fall in love, you'll need some simple, yet effective dating advice (especially if you want him to be your boyfriend.)

When you’re falling in love with a man, it’s natural to want to prove what a great catch you are by being sweeter, funnier, and smarter, in hopes that he’ll fall in love with you, too.

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Figuring out how to make a guy fall in love with you is one of the most sought-after pieces of dating advice.

Focusing on what men want and ingratiating yourself in this way may feel like the natural thing to do, but it’s the worst way to force a man to fall for you.

He may feel appreciative when you do things like make plans, offer advice, run errands, or give gifts.

Falling in love with you seems like it would be the natural next step for him.

But, sometimes this behavior overwhelms a man, makes him withdraw, or he ends up seeing you as just a good friend. 

You want to inspire his romantic side, but you can't do that when you're pressuring him. 

Instead, here are 3 simple ways to learn how to get him to like you and fall in love with you.

1. Don’t give him more than he gives you

Inspiring a man to fall for you is all about you being able to receive love.

A man is actually turned off when he gets more from you than he gives.

When you shower him with affection, attention, dinners, gifts, and always go out of your way to drive to his place, it makes him think of you as a mother or a friend instead of inspiring his emotional desire for you.

Don’t pay for dates, either. The moment you pay for a date you turn into a “friend” in his mind.

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2. Don’t give away exclusivity if he hasn’t yet committed

Being exclusive and sexually monogamous with a man without a "forever" commitment from him puts you in a tough place emotionally.

You become completely invested in him because he has all your time and attention.

There’s no way you can stop wondering about where the relationship is going.

But, the more you wonder about it, the more you push a man away.

Rather than talking about the relationship or threatening him with ultimatums, you can continue to keep your options open by dating other men.

This way, you keep your class, your power, your boundaries, and he has to work to get you!

3. Don’t plan dates

You want to plan the date because you’re uncomfortable with him possibly being clueless about what you like or where to take you.

However, you’ll never know what a man is capable of until you let him do what he does, even if that’s nothing.

The amazing thing is that once you get comfortable with your own boundaries and feelings, you can just let a man be who he is and then determine whether or not you want to be with him.

This attitude shifts your vibe so dramatically that a man will jump hurdles to be with you.

When you become a woman who can respect a man enough to not try to "pick up the slack" for him, he might just end up falling for you, after all.

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This article was originally published at Buzzfeed. Reprinted with permission from the author.