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12 Unconventional Ways To Have The Best Orgasm Of Your G-D LIFE

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Unconventional Sex Tips

Many women have issues experiencing deep, meaningful orgasms — and some don't orgasm at all. Women's magazines offer you instant sex tips to reach that Big O, like taking a hot shower or trying some special basic positions.

However, reaching orgasm or deepening your orgasms is something you can and should first achieve by yourself. This is what female freedom and empowerment is about.

Here are some tips to give you stronger, deeper, much longer orgasms:

1. Masturbate daily. 

Before you expect to have orgasmic sex with another person, learn how to touch, pleasure, and love yourself. The benefits of masturbation include pleasure, deeper orgasms, healing your body and heart, independence and empowerment.

2. Focus on internal stimulation.

Masturbation is just the beginning. It's important to bring awareness and love into your body, and internal stimulation is the key. Use a non-vibrating dildo, a long vegetable, or at least your fingers.

3. Go beyond the clitoris. 

A clitoral orgasm isn't bad, it's just less encompassing, meaningful and pleasurable compared to an internal orgasm. Enjoy stimulation of your clitoris, but avoid clitoral orgasms; instead, learn to internalize the pleasure and turn it into a whole-body orgasm.

4. Try doing deep belly breathing. 

Most people breathe into their chest instead of their belly. Deep belly breath brings more air into your lungs, more energy into your body, more awareness to your genital area, and is relaxing and invigorating. Play with various speeds of breath, and with breathing only through the mouth.

5. Make continuous sounds. 

Making sounds opens the throat, relaxes the jaw, helps you breathe deeper and longer, allows the expression of both pleasure and pain, and aids in healing guilt and shame around sexuality. Making sounds actually creates pleasure, even if you feel that you're just "faking" it. Experiment with different kinds of sounds: sensual, innocent, wild, different pitches, and so on.

6. Tune into your hip movements. 

When you see a woman who's dancing sensually, does she move her hips? Learning to move your hips in various ways will create sexual arousal, pleasure and then orgasm. It also increases both you and your partner's pleasure during sex. Experiment with back-and-forth, side-to-side, circling, undulating, shaking, and bouncing your hips. Take belly-dancing, strip-tease, and erotic dance classes.

7. Try edging.

The idea is that by stimulating yourself but stopping yourself from orgasming, you will experience an orgasmic state rather than an orgasmic peak. You might experience a deeper orgasm than you've ever had.

8. Practice doing Kegel exercises.

This is great for vaginal health, for experiencing stronger and more varied pleasure and orgasm, for bringing pleasure to your partner. It's also a valuable exercise before and after giving birth. Make sure you completely relax those muscles. Consider using a vaginal jade egg to exercise them.

9. Learn to appreciate all the sensations.

See every moment or expression of pleasure — heat, tingling, pulsation, sensation, goosebumps — as a mini orgasm, an orgasmic expression, and learn to appreciate and celebrate that.

10. Let your pheromones do the work.

Women get aroused more easily when they move; men get aroused more easily when they relax. Dance or exercise for half an hour just before you masturbate or have sex. This will get you into your body. Try not to shower, because the smell, taste and pheromones of the sweat can arouse both you and your partner.

11. Put your body into a full relaxed state. 

While you're masturbating or having sex, make sure you're relaxed, not tensed and stressed about needing to orgasm. Don't try to orgasm, just allow yourself to enjoy your body, the experience and the moment. Notice the sensations in your body or allow your partner to pleasure you without doing anything "in return."

12. Surrender to the pleasure. 

Ultimately, an orgasm is a moment of surrender, and deep orgasms require deep surrender. Practice surrender in your daily life. Affirm to yourself "I surrender" before, during and after a masturbation or sex session.

This article was originally published at Reprinted with permission from the author.