Communication Problems

Years in Practice

10 years +


Beverly Hills CA 90212 - United States


EdD, PhD

Additional Expertise

Marriage/Couples Counselor, Relationship Coach, Sex Coach, Sex Educator

I Practice in

Multiple states/provinces, please inquire



I Believe

I'm dedicated to helping people overcome obstacles, to heal & forgive, to love themselves & find true love, to improve the quality of life. I believe the meaning of life is learning how to give & receive love!

About Dr. Ava Cadell

Dr. Ava Cadell is a Clinical Sexologist & AASECT Certified Sex Counselor with Doctorates in Human Behavior & Human Sexuality.

As the Founder of Loveology University® in 2007, Dr. Ava has taken on the role of mentor to share her vast knowledge on love, romance, relationships, intimacy & sexuality with students who train to become Certified Love Coaches, Master Sexperts and Relationship Coaches. The curriculum is accredited by the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors & Therapists as well as the American College of Sexologists International.

Dr. Ava’s mission is to promote the benefits of healthy love, intimacy & sex by training students worldwide.

As a global speaker, Dr. Ava has traveled the world lecturing to Fortune 500 companies, conferences and healing retreats across the U.S.,
Europe, India, Asia, Australia, and Africa, bringing her message of sexual empowerment to the masses. She has also worked on behalf of such
top pharmaceutical companies as Bayer, Amgen, and Wyeth, to help promote sexual health and wellness.

Dr. Ava is the author of eleven books including NeuroLoveology: The Power to Mindful Love and Sex, which was endorsed by Dr. John Gray, bestselling author of Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus. Her latest book is on Healing from Loss & Abuse with Loving Solutions to Live Your Life to The Fullest, is also her latest multi-media 7-hour course for https://www.loveuniv.com/

As a Media Therapist, Dr. Ava has appeared on myriad of TV shows, from Good Morning America to Anderson Cooper 360, EXTRA and Geraldo at Large. She has also appeared in reality shows like, Gene Simmons Family Jewels & Kendra On Top, helping celebrities navigate their love lives. IFC producers of Gigi Does It cast Dr. Ava to play herself opposite renowned actors, David Krumholz and Ricky Mabe.

Many magazines have written features about Dr. Ava’s life, such as Marie Claire, Cosmo and Sexual Health Magazine. Her expertise has also been quoted in numerous publications including, Women’s Health, Men’s Health, Brides, LA Parent, Redbook, Prevention, Glamour,
Esquire, Self, Maxim, Huffington Post, Star, Globe, OK, National Enquirer
and Us Weekly.

Through her private practice in Los Angeles, she counsels individuals & couples on personal issues including infidelity, orgasm barriers, performance problems, sexual compulsion, shame and guilt, parental concerns, power struggles, anger management, fear of intimacy, lack of communication and lack of desire. Dedicated to helping people overcome obstacles, Dr. Ava is passionate about the power of love and how it can improve the quality of life!


Dr. Ava Cadell Success Stories

“Can you teach us something new and exciting to try in bed?”

Married couples

Mac, 32 years old, and Wendy, 27 years old, were newlyweds, but they had been dating for three years and wanted to consummate their marriage with some new sexual techniques in hopes of expanding their sexual horizon.more

As a solution, I taught them how to give each other a TriGasm. For the woman first, she should lie back while her lover stimulates her clitoris orally until she has reached a level 8 on a pleasure scale of 1 to 10. (10 equals orgasm). Then change course and stimulate her vulva in small circles with the tongue or fingers for about 2 minutes. Return to the clitoris and orally increase her level of pleasure to a 9; almost to the point of no return.

At this peak, insert a forefinger palm up into her vagina and find her G-spot, then tap, tap, tap it gently towards her navel. Simultaneously, stimulate her anus with a finger or vibrator to bring her to a mind-blowing, earth shattering, body-melting TriGasm.

For the man, he should lie back while his lover lavishes the head of his penis orally until he reaches a level 8 on a pleasure scale of 1 to 10. She should then use her mouth and tongue to stimulate his testicles for about 2 minutes. Return to the penis and orally increase his level of pleasure to a 9.5 (almost to the point of no return). Meanwhile fondle his testicles with one hand, while fingering his anus with the other.

“He wants to have a threesome with another woman.”

Dating couples

I met Lila, 22 years old, and Brian, 24 years old, who had been dating for six months when they came to me for advice about having a threesome. I could tell that Brian was more eager than Lila, so I asked her to tell Brian her concerns. She confessed her biggest fear was that he may prefer the other woman or could become addicted to threesomes. more

I asked Brian to share his pros and cons of having a threesome with Lila; he said that on the upside it could expand their sexual horizon and would even agree to have a threesome with two men if she wanted. He could find no downside to the fantasy other than if it were to cause Lila distress.

I recommended they make his fantasy come true with the power of suggestion first, by pretending another woman was in bed with them. Lila would describe what she looks like, and then Brian can describe what she is doing to them both sexually in graphic detail. Afterward, if they may both really want to try it they can. However, sometimes the fantasy may be better than the reality.

“I want to last longer.”

Single men

Brad, 32 years old, came to see me because he wanted to learn how to maintain his erection for a longer duration of time. He worried he was no longer in his sexual prime and feared that with aging, his sexual endurance would weaken. I taught Brad to record the length of time he could exert himself sexually before reaching exhaustion; then try to increase this length (even if was with one minute intervals). I also gave him an exercise called Penis Lifts he could do on his own by placing a hand towel on the erect penis; then raising it up and down like a weight for 20 reps 3 times a day would strengthen the muscles of his penis. With his partner, Brad had more exciting exercises to do during intercourse; use the ratio of 3 shallow strokes to 1 deep thrust while keeping eyes open. Then, changing the rhythm to 6 shallow thrusts for each deep thrust, eyes open would allow him to prolong his ejaculation and stay erect longer.

“We’re never in the mood at the same time.”

Married couples

High school sweethearts, and parents of two, Jay, 36 years old, wanted sex every day and Becca, 35 years old, was satisfied with once a week. I explained to them that there are several reasons why a couple may not be in the mood at the same time. It could be physical: too tired. It could be emotional: too stressed. It could also be just plain boredom: too predictable. more

As a solution to resolve the mismatched sex drive, I asked Becca to tell Jay what would help her to get into a sexy mood more often. She confessed she had some resentment towards him expecting her to turn into a sexpot from mommy mode without any romance or foreplay. Jay promised to give Becca some time to unwind, let her take a bath and then give her a massage, focusing on the non sexual parts of her body first. Becca promised to be more responsive and sexual as she was when they were first married. The power of communication and compromise worked its magic once again.

“Sex is painful with my husband”

Women with sexual dysfunctions

Emily, a woman age 37, married for three years suffering from vaginal pain during intercourse came to see me. She could not specify when the pain first started, but said that it was getting progressively worse. Emily has been examined by her gynecologist who found no physical evidence such as vaginitis, Vaginismus, vaginal agenesis or cysts to support her pain. His diagnosis was that Emily’s pain was psychological. more

I suggested that Emily bring her husband, Ryan to the session because I find it helpful to observe the verbal interaction and body language of couples I am counseling. Besides, her problem did affect their relationship and he should be part of the solution process.

I discovered that they had a mismatched sex drive and that Emily felt like she was under constant pressure to have sex. Eventually, she just clamped up and so did her vaginal muscles as a form of defense.

In my office, I encouraged Emily and Ryan to do some Sensate Focus exercises on each other’s hands and face. Emily was able to experience receiving touch without any sexual agenda. For their homework, I gave them other non-sexual exercises that would create deeper intimacy without focusing on the goal of intercourse or orgasm. It was up to Emily to let Ryan know when she was ready to have intercourse.

A week later, Emily called to let me know that they were experiencing a deeper heart connection and to her delight, Ryan was being more romantic. During sexual intercourse, she did not experience the kind of pain she had before. On a scale of 1 to 10, her discomfort level was now between a 1 and a 2 instead of an 8 or higher.

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