7 Easy Ways To Bring The Butterflies & Romance Back Into Your Relationship

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Can you easily and quickly bring romance back into your relationship? Yes, it really is possible. But first, you have to start by identifying what caused the romance to end in the first place.

There are many possible reasons for romance to fade away:

  • You discover your partner's deep dark secret, and you find you are unable to recover from this.
  • You or your partner has a history of trauma, physical or mental abuse, and the after-effects are resurfacing.
  • You chose this partner on the rebound when you had broken up with someone else who you really loved.
  • Your love styles do not match and one pushes for intimacy (sexual or emotional), while the other pulls away.
  • You feel disappointed, hurt, betrayed, angry, frustrated at work, with your partner or with your life and lifestyle.

If the love is still there, still strong and neither of you wants to break up, here are some tactics that can bring both of you back into a romantic state of mind.

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Every couple experiences ups and downs in their relationship. When you've been with the same person for many years, it's inevitable that the excitement will subside and you'll be intimate less frequently.

The worst thing you can do is to assume that there's nothing that can be done. There are plenty of ways to bring romance back into a long-term relationship. You just have to make a few small changes.

Here are seven tips to help rekindle your spark and bring the romance back into your love life:

1. Take notice of your partner.

When we know someone so intimately, it's easy to forget to ask about simple things like how their day was. Even if there's nothing important to say, it's still vital to share everyday things like this. It's all about showing your partner that you care.

2. Go on a couples retreat.

Why not book a weekend retreat at a spa and wellness center, or go camping together? A change in surroundings can really set the scene for romance.

3. Don't rely on gifts.

Every girl loves flowers and chocolate. But if the only time they receive these gifts is in apology for doing something wrong, the relationship becomes transactional. By giving her these items, you're shutting down any opportunity to address the real issue by talking about it.

The next time you frustrate your partner, gift them your attention. Save the flowers and chocolate for when they'll really be a surprise.

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4. Touch each other.

Physical contact is the best way to show intimacy. Simply holding your partner's hand, playing with her hair or resting your hand on her leg will tell her that you enjoy her company. Just don't create the expectation that every time you touch her, it should lead to sex.

5. Go on a date.

Dates shouldn't only be on special occasions. Go out more often. You'll find the change in surroundings adds excitement and makes it much easier to talk. It doesn't have to be somewhere expensive, just somewhere you haven't been a thousand times before.

6. Surprise your partner.

Planning and organization is the enemy of romance. To set your partner off, you need to bring some spontaneity back into your relationship. Surprise your loved one with tickets to a show or take her on a picnic.

7. Take time apart.

This may sound counterintuitive, but sometimes time apart is the healthiest way to rekindle a relationship. Give your partner the space to satisfy their hobbies and pass-times. After time apart, they won't be able to wait until they're back in your arms.

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Dr. Erica Goodstone is a Spiritual Relationship Healing Expert helping men and women heal their bodies and their relationships through love. She believes that Where There is Love There IS a Way. When you love, accept, listen and pay attention to your body, your sense of what you want and need, your circumstances and the other people in your life, anything and everything is possible.

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