The Triumphs (And Challenges) You'll Face In Your Relationship, Based On Which Stage Of Love You're In

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Love is something we all desire, but was is true love, exactly?

It's something only a few couples truly achieve at some point in their relationship.

In fact, there are some people that never find true love at all — either because they never fall in love with the right person, or because they're stuck in an unhealthy relationship that simply does not entail that “true love” feeling.

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Recently, science has started to shed some light on the fact that love may not be as magical as we think it is, but rather, emotions caused by the production and release of certain "love hormones."

This causes the numerous feelings you experience when you meet someone new and fall in love, as well as when you stay in a relationship for an extended period of time — in some cases, an entire lifetime.

Being in love is not only an "event" that causes happy emotions and butterflies in your stomach. It actually has numerous benefits for your psychological and physical wellbeing, too.

A recent study provided evidence that being in love improves the possibility of a successful outcome when a patient has been diagnosed with a deadly disease, such as cancer.

Being in love can also assist in many other ways, such as to help with a low sex drive. The attractiveness that a person experiences while being in love could help improve their sex drive and get them back to performing at their best in the bedroom.

Now that you know the benefits of being in love, you also need to look at how love can be damaging to a person. This is not about how a breakup causes heartache, but rather referring to a very problematic myth that people believe about love.

This particular myth is the fact that people believe when they are touched by love, it will simply last for their entire lifetime. This is a particular belief that is pushed upon us by society, but scientists have provided proof that this might be more of a myth.

To understand why a lifetime of love from a single “moment” is more a myth than a reality, look at the discovery made by scientists about love, falling in love, falling out of love, and experiencing true love.

Each of these stages of love includes the production of different hormones, which contributes to the many emotions we experienced during each particular stage.

1. The falling in love stage

This is probably one of the most exciting stages of love. It is the stage where you meet someone and you fall in love with them. It is the most popular stage that love entails, and can last for quite a long time.

During the first stage, safe sex is always really good, you experience the many feelings of love every day, such as being anxious when getting ready for your date and having “butterflies in your stomach” when you are actually on the date.

This stage, however, does not last for eternity, even though many people tend to think (and hope) it would. In this phase, many things contribute to the emotions you experience, including inherited genes.

You also utilize many of your own unique aspects to “select” that special someone that you will fall in love with — such as your smell, hearing, and vision.

It is, however, important to note that the “falling in love” usually occurs in your subconscious mind — in many cases, you would suddenly realize that you have fallen in love with someone without being actively conscious about the entire process behind that event.

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2. The partner stage

As time goes by, you and your new partner get used to each other being there. You eventually start to grow out of the “falling in love” stage and enter the “partner” stage.

In this stage, you may still experience those butterflies and anxious moments, but they won’t be as intense as they were in the previous phase. This stage may also be a little difficult as you and your partner start to realize some of the differences you have, rather than focus on the particular similarities you noticed during the first phase.

This is an important phase as passing through this phase could only make the bond you and your new partner share stronger and help you two to know each other better.

3. The decision stage

The third stage of love is the most challenging and is usually where the majority of relationships tend to fail — which leads to a breakup, rather than that lifelong commitment both partners were hoping for and believed in.

The “decision” stage is where you and your partner know each other and things may start to feel somewhat boring. The excitement that was there at the beginning of your relationship could be going away during this stage; you may not be spending as much time together anymore and sex may not be on the table as much as it was a while ago.

This, however, does not mean that the two of you will break up.

This is a make or break stage. If you get through this stage, there is a chance that you and your partner will experience true love. If not, then a breakup may be in order.

4. The true love stage

Finally, the last stage is the true love stage. If you and your partner manage to reach this stage, then there might actually be a lifetime of memories to look forward to.

Unfortunately, only a very small number of relationships actually make it to this stage. In fact, quite a large number of marriages haven’t even reached this stage yet, and may still take quite a while before the stage can be truly reached.

Even though love is something that everyone would like to experience, some people are never able to experience the feelings that true love can bring them.

What many fail to realize is that love is not a mystical force causing them to experience the many emotions that love entails, but rather a scientifically-proven reaction that occurs in the brain.

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