Don't Judge A Guy By His Looks

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 It’s true that guys normally consider first impressions solely upon the looks of the female. However, women are equally guilty. Can you honestly say that you would want to be approached by the least attractive guy in the room? This type of behavior can be very detrimental when it comes to seducing a guy. At the end of the day, guys like to be appreciated for who they are and not what they look like; just as you do.

Men go through the same amount of physical changes as women do. As a woman, you may be stocked up with anti-aging products. But as a man, you may find more time to exercise to stay fit and attractive. While women find an anecdote for their changing is physique, men simply act out by dating younger women or buying things that make them feel young. Whatever the case, the need to ‘look’ attractive is equally important to both men and women.

So if you’re trying to figure out how to get a guy, you should try a different approach. Sure you will most likely be interested in the guy that looks like the Calvin Klein model. However, this says nothing about the guy other than the fact that he’s very cute. This guy you fancy could wear a $4,000 suit, and have no money; or even a job. Or, if you see a guy driving the latest BMW, it would be silly for you to assume that he has plenty of money and a successful career. After all, he could be taking the car out for a good cleaning…for his boss!

Likewise, if he’s well dressed and extremely flirtatious, don’t assume that he’s a player. As mentioned in other blogs, some guys are naturally polite and they are very good at entertaining women. Don’t assume that his generosity is a sign of being a ladies man. Furthermore, don’t assume that he will continue to be this way if you were to start dating. If you are looking to be continuously pursued, you will have to intrigue him on a continuous basis.

In short, if you are serious about learning how to get a man, you have to notice that men come in all shapes, sizes, and colors. Start by picture the inner qualities of your “Mr. Right”, and the outer qualities will appear on their own.

Devon Brown is a dating and relationship coach who provides advice for women looking for good partners. 

This article was originally published at How to get a man now. Reprinted with permission from the author.