Online Dating Advice That Will Save You From A HUGE Virtual Mistake


I know I’ve written about this before, but it seems to continue to plague online dating. It doesn’t matter if you’re on OkCupid,, or Plentyoffish. You could even be using a dating app like Hinge or Tinder.

The biggest mistake women making on their profiles is their pictures.

Most men don’t read your profile, because most the time men expect to be rejected anyway so they never spend long looking into your history.

They may skim quickly to contact you and that's about it.

What they're looking at is your pictures, and let me tell you something, the mistakes women make with pictures is unreal. Recently, a friend of mine came over and asked me to help him online date a little bit.

I started looking and looking and looking. We spent hours looking at women’s profiles. It was pretty amusing. I told him that half the women on there wouldn’t look like their pictures. It was kind of depressing for him.

This is what women will do, they'll put pictures up of themselves that are old, and then they'll put ONE picture up that's current. That picture doesn't look like them at all. Big mistake. 

If you were hotter when you were younger, not a big deal. But if you’re still pretty right now, and you put up a picture of yourself when you used to be hotter, you’re asking for trouble.

This may be hard to swallow, but the guy will look at it and think to himself…”Boy, I wish I had met her back when she looked like this.”

I see this discrepancy in photos all the time. Just put up a picture of how you look now.

It’s mostly women over the age of 40 who make this mistake. That’s because women over 40 have the hardest struggle accepting the aging process.

If you’re 25 to 30 years old you’re not going to put up a picture of when you were a teenager because you still feel at that young, hot stage of life. When you put an old photo of yourself up and then meet the guy, he’s learning 2 things about you right away. He’s learning that you’re not confident in the way you look right now, and he’s learning that you’re prepared to lie to attract a man.

Put up the 5 best pictures of how you look right now. Not how you USED to look 10 years ago. You need pictures of how you look now, so you’re able to attract the right man for you now.

Never give him a reason not to contact you. When we see pictures with a discrepancy it makes us think you’re hiding something.

You might be ruining your chances with a great man. Five current pictures, all consistent with who you are now. Try it, and I guarantee you’ll see your dating life online improve instantly.

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