THIS Is How Smart Women Weed Out Losers To Find Mr. Right

Here's how to know for sure that you've finally met your match.

By Clay Andrews — Written on Mar 23, 2015

I'm sure there are at least a few dating and relationship horror stories from your past. Don't worry, it's completely normal to have a few experiences that seemed like good ideas at the time, but didn't really lead where you were hoping (Please don't ask me to count my own personally).

However, love and dating doesn't isn't just a matter of luck or chance. Here's how smart women approach the dating scene in order to find great men and have successful relationships.

Know Who You're Looking For

Some women will just chase the elusive feeling of "chemistry," believing that when someone is right for you, "you just know." Not to sound, unromantic, but that just isn't good enough.

You've probably felt that wonderful feeling of chemistry before, right? We all have. But what eventually happened to those men or relationships? They probably fizzled out or ended in a breakup. That just goes to show that chemistry isn't enough to sustain a long term relationship.

And you don't want to go to the other extreme either of being too picky. ("He is six feet tall, has blond hair, makes six figures a year, buys me gifts at least once a week, has a body fat percentage no greater than 10%, etc.") The goal isn't to find some mythical unicorn of a man who only lurks in fairy tales and the imaginations of women with sky high expectations. The goal is to find the right man for you.

So sit down and actually think about the five more important qualities you want in a man. Limit it to five so that you don't become too picky and so you are only focusing on what is truly important to you (Does it really matter that he's tall? Or is it more important that he's loyal? Choices, choices.)

Also, write out five deal breakers that you won't put up with in any man who you would ever consider having a serious relationship with. Again, limit it to five so that you focus on what is actually most important to you.

Okay, do you have your two lists of five "must have" qualities and five "deal breaker" qualities?

Good. Let's Start Meeting Some Men!

As you put yourself out into the dating scene, you will meet men. You're going to use your two lists to know whether or not he's Mr. Right. Specifically, there are four types of men you will meet as you are out dating. Here they are:

1. Really Wrong Men:

These are the men who will have few qualities on your "must have" list and many qualities on your "deal breaker" list. These are the men that you do not want to have anything to do with. Typically serial killers and psychopaths end up in this category.

2. Wrong Men:

These men are probably great people; however, they just aren't a good match for you. They may have some of the "must have" qualities, but they also have some of the "deal breaker" qualities as well. Because of that, it is unlikely that you will be able to have a successful and healthy relationship with men like this.

3. Good Men:

These men are tempting to settle down with and start a relationship with. After all, they will have most of your "must have" qualities—maybe even all of them. Or they may have only one "deal breaker."

They are close to what you're looking for, however, because they are lacking at least one "must have" quality or they have at least one "deal breaker," you will never truly be happy in a relationship with these men.

4. Great Men, A.K.A. Mr. Right: