3 Ways Highly Sensitive People Can Learn To Love Themselves More

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Learning To Love Yourself When You’re A Sensitive & Intuitive Person

Learning how to love yourself when you're a highly insensitive and intuitive person is tough.

"Don’t be so sensitive!"

How many times did you hear that growing up? If you’re like most intuitive and sensitive people, you probably heard it a lot.

When people tell us we’re too sensitive, they usually mean, "Stop being so emotional." Or worse, "Your behavior is inappropriate." And that makes it difficult to learn how to love yourself.

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In their desire for us to fit in and succeed, well-meaning teachers and caregivers convey a common but destructive message: It’s more important for you to be sensitive to other people than it is for you to be sensitive to yourself.

If your goal is to be a people pleaser, developing sensitivity to the changing moods and opinions of others is essential. But, people pleasing is not for everyone (nor does it really benefit you.

However, if you desire happiness, inner balance, and control over your own mood, you must have more self-love and become more sensitive to your needs.

Learning to love yourself is key. And once you learn how to redefine sensitivity, you'll learn how to love your sensitive, intuitive self.   

Sensitivity and intuition are highly connected. Both require us to become still enough to hear the subtle messages that arise from within.

Intuition speaks to us through our emotions, hunches, ideas, and flashes of insight. Pay attention to the rise or fall in your mood and you’ll know when to take another course of action. And, the earlier you correct that course, the better for all involved.  

Intuition and sensitivity are skills that we must continually sharpen in order to be the deliberate creators of our lives. If we’re not sensitive to what’s going on within us, we rob ourselves of the power to create a different outcome.

When you can love, validate, and become sensitive to your intuition, you’ll feel more stable in every aspect of life.  

Here are 3 daily practices to use so you can learn how to love yourself even when you're highly intuitive and sensitive.

1. Make alone time a priority

Sensitivity is a double-edged sword. You can use it purposefully to become better in touch with your emotions, preferences, and desires.  

But, if you don’t focus it on purpose, you’ll likely pick up other people’s stress or discomfort. Unplugging from other people and activities will help you become more receptive to your sensitive and intuitive self.  

Give yourself some downtime by listening to a guided meditation — or just sitting quietly observing your breath. This will help you unplug from external forces and reconnect with yourself.  

It’s like hitting the reset button — every system in the body and mind works in greater harmony when we take time to be alone.

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2. Be aware of unprocessed or unexpressed emotions

Repressed or unprocessed emotions scramble the signals that our intuition uses to communicate with us. Feelings we don’t deal with at the moment always resurface at a later time.

Once you’ve settled back into yourself, notice what feelings you need to release to become more emotionally present.

For example, is there a conversation you’ve been putting off? Is there a commitment you need to amend or renegotiate? If you’re feeling overwhelmed or stressed, is your body asking for more stimulation or more rest?  

Take whatever actions that will help you release stored emotions. This will free your intuitive and sensitive self to respond clearly and in the present moment.  

3. Be your own best friend

If we’re being honest, most of us would admit that we want to feel seen, respected, and understood by others. But, what we may not yet know is that this level of friendship must start within ourselves.

After all, how can you expect others to understand your needs if you’re not clear about them within yourself?  

Loving yourself involves a lot of effort. So periodically check in with yourself with the same attentiveness you would show a good friend. Ask simple questions like, "How are you doing?", "What do you need?", or "Is there anything I can do to make your day a little easier or your mood a little lighter?"

Our outer world provides a moment by moment reflection of what is going on in our inner world. The universe will treat us as generously or poorly as we treat ourselves.  

Practice being a good friend to yourself and watch as others follow suit.

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Christy Whitman is a transformational leader, celebrity coach and the New York Times bestselling author of “The Art of Having It All: A Woman’s Guide to Unlimited Abundance”.

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