The Importance Of Self-Esteem For Lasting Relationships

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The Importance Of Self-Esteem For Lasting Relationships

Different people have different views when it comes to the idea of a romantic relationship. One clinical study stated that romantic love is basically one's unique emotional state of great calm, intense excitement, and improved well-being when the partner is present. 

Scientists also believe that a romantic and loving relationship is powerful but an irrational addiction or attraction. They mainly characterize the feeling as a temporary phenomenon that is mostly comprised of sexual fantasies that easily diminish over time.

Others believe that romantic love is a result of general physiological arousal normally based on negative impulses like anxiety, guilt, or fear. But then, there is no evidence that proves emotions are similar on the levels of physiology.

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One of the most vital characteristics an individual should have to obtain a successful and happy romantic relationship is how to improve self-esteem and how to be confident! Studies have shown that people with higher levels of knowledge, acceptance, individuality, and identity are more likely to function effectively in a romantic love. And everything practically starts in one's self.

The theory on how self-esteem greatly helps in keeping a romantic relationship working starts by understanding the in loving someone, one should learn to love oneself first, and the only way to achieve that is to have higher levels of self-worth.

Self-esteem in a loving relationship is clearly defined as comprising of two different interrelated aspects. Self-confidence is the first aspects which come from your sense of competence on how you deal with yourself and the world outside. This attitude starts from commitments to rationalities, as well as understanding and awareness of what reality is.

The sense of self-worth and self-respect is another aspect to keep a romantic and loving relationship. These attitudes stem from your adherence to judgments and values. People with a great sense of self-respect often see themselves as worthy and deserving of happiness.

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It has long been proven that people with higher levels of self-esteem are more likely to experience romantic love than with those with low self-esteem. They are bound to have better romantic and loving relationships because the fact remains that they are less emotionally dependent on their partners.

Also, they are aware that happiness is an internal satisfaction that roots from within, and not on external sources like education, health, and wealth.

Individuals should know that before they expect a successful loving relationship, it is best to start by valuing yourself first. Before you build and develop a plan to meet someone, it is a better idea that you thoroughly examine yourself, and evaluate who you really are and what it is in life that you really want.

If there is one person that you should get to know more than anyone firsthand, it's yourself.

There may also be some areas in your life that needs to be sorted out. It is advised that you work on those issues first before you start building a relationship. It is possible that your meet your soulmate while in the course of your personal exploration.

By the time you are done with your self-evaluation, you can easily attract more people and meet interesting ones easily. Remember that to keep a long lasting relationship, knowing yourself first and understanding how to be confident are essential.

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Christina Young is known as "The Healing Heart Coach" through her work as a Surviving Infidelity Expert and Relationship Coach. She is author of the book A Woman’s Guide to Forgiving Infidelity.

This article was originally published at Christina Young. Reprinted with permission from the author.