5 Steps To Manifest Love With New Moon Solar Eclipse

Even if you don't follow astrology at all, there are certain events in the sky that you just can't miss. Sunday, May 20 is one of those days. Both the New Moon and a Solar Eclipse are happening at the same time. I am an astrology fan and have consulted both quirky and quacky astrologers in my day and there are a couple of astrology websites that I follow.

I don't read my horoscope every day but I do tune in when I have an important decision to make and knowing my Scorpio nature helps me manage my emotional energy for sure.

Anyway, when I started to research this particular New Moon Solar Eclipse and what it symbolizes when it comes to giving and receiving love, I was astounded. You see, I am going through my own challenge involving family relationships right now and I am excited about creating my New Moon intentions because of the double power of this energy in the sky.

Some women are surprised when I talk about my experience with deep emotional pain.  It is true I have my soul mate, but that is no get out of jail free card when it comes to having a broken heart.  

According to, "The aim of all this (Venus in Retrograde) is to resolve painful karmic memories. We are being forced to face our inner pain in relation to love, the pain of being dumped or humiliated by infidelity, or the karmic pain cause by doing this to others. Moon quincunx Venus tells of the emotional tension caused by the pain, within the family, and especially for the women affected, the wife, mothers, sisters and daughters."  

Here's the thing, this is exactly what is happening to me. I know it could be coincidental but the drama that my family member is going through is painful for me...often catching me by surprise with intensity.  My heart is breaking for this loved one and the pain is real.

Then thinking of this weekend's New Moon Solar Eclipse Soul Mate Manifesting Ritual, once again I was so happy to see this: "Venus square Chiron means we are forced, through events and through relationships, to face the pain of the past. By doing so, the difficult work of healing the pain can begin, this is the nature of Chiron, wounding to heal."

This is the missing piece.  If you are not with the love of your life, you can be sure that a hidden grudge or broken heart is radiating a fearful careful energy that is cold and prickly to warm hearted lovers out there.

This New Moon in Gemini and Solar Eclipse brings with it long-awaited breakthroughs, says, and breakups and breakdowns are ready to let go. Don't be surprised if old friends and lovers call or cross your path. It is time to clean house and let yourself grieve what needs to be grieved and get on with it.

Like the process a priceless hand crafted violin goes through in its restoration, this is a time of sandpapering and steel wooling the no longer needed layers separating you from love. If you have been particularly moody this week it is a sure sign that you are already resonating with the energy that is coming.

If you are tired of the manifesting process all together, this is an extremely powerful time for you. According to, starting fresh and reconnecting with someone you used to be close to can usher you into a whole new level of emotional expression. This can only help you in the romance department. It is also time for something to be "eclipsed" out that is pruned away.

You will know which bad habit, procrastinated task or grudge is the optimal to let go of by time the Full Moon comes, two weeks from now.

"Some of your relationships are under a lot of strain right now and weak spots can become really obvious. Don't be surprised that there may be sadness in the realizations happening right now," says Dipali Desai at, "There can be a part of a person who doesn't want to grow up, and the Gemini New Moon can trigger manic thinking and over analyzing with the rational mind which fights inner growth."

What does all this mean to you and your Soul Mate Attraction Plan? Let me break it down to 5 Powerful Steps:

1. Let The Past Characters Show Themselves--You might think that you are completely over the jokers, players and losers of the past but are you sure? Are you completely positive there is not one itty bitty grudge lingering over your ex's bad behavior? You may not actually get a phone call from an ex this week but have you dreamed of one? Did you hear "your song" for the first time in forever? Be alert.

2. People who love you are feeling this with you--Your friends and family are worried about you right now. The vibration of this time of letting go of grudges so you can find love is powerful. The people who love you most are the ones who know how much you want to find love. Reach out. Ask for love, light, prayer..whatever lifts your spirits. This is your inner work though, don't share more than you need to. Just tell your supporters you are in low spot and you need love.

3. Planting Heartfelt Intentions in This New Moon Energy Is SO Smart-- The New Moon is a time of planting. Planting seeds of your desires into the void and the safety of the loving nurturing energy that is the Universe.

When you are choosing your intentions this month, take the focus of your partner and put it on you. What trait in YOU can be strengthened so that you are the ideal match for him?

The Gemini New Moon holds these areas of life in its energy, according to New Moon Astrology by Susan Spiller, Learning, Communication Skills, Calming Mental Anxiety and Social Ease. Which of these resonate with you? Create an intention that empowers one of these life areas. You want to magnetize yourself to love and this is the fastest way.

4. Create A Ritual-- Lessons learned from our grandmother's grandmothers sift through as sealing a Universal Wish or Desire with a ritual always feels delish. I host New Moon Rituals and I would love to have you participate. I can't emphasize enough the power of this time to really dig out ancient grudges and get yourself free to risk falling in love again.

5.Let Go Of Something-- Somewhere in your life is evidence of what I like to call your "lower nature." You know, the gossipy, snarky, bitchy, stingy, selfish, mean, manipulative sneaky shadowy part of yourself that micro manages you from the inside out.

When you are stressed, exhausted, sad, lonely or hungry...what happens first? How do you snap? There is a clue to something you could let go of. I recommend creating an Intention around easily seeing and releasing a part of your lower nature that is logical to let go of.

I talk to people from all over the world who are tired of waiting, tired of trying so hard to find love and afraid of being alone. It is to you lovely people who don't see the beauty the rest of us do, it is to you I appeal to the most. Use this uber-powerful time, whether you believe in it or not to clear the cobwebs of past crimes of the heart and move on, what do you have to lose?

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