Top 10 Traits All Singles Are Searching For

Top 10 Traits All Singles Are Searching For [EXPERT]
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As a matchmaking expert, I have helped thousands of singles find, meet and connect with other singles wanting long-term relationships through one-on-one personal compatibility matching. I ask every person the same question: "What are you looking for in your ideal partner?" ... and out comes the list of personality and character traits.

Generally, men and women want different things. For instance, most men place more emphasis on looks, sexual chemistry and confidence, whereas most women feel that commitment, communication and trust are most important. Still, there are many personality traits that both sexes hope to find in their special someone. They are:

1. Honesty. Honesty is a key component to any healthy, loving relationship. It takes a lot of caring, courage and love to be honest and remain truthful with your partner in all areas of your life for the duration of the relationship. 3 Strong New Relationship Tips To Make It Last Past The Honeymoon Phase

2. Communication. Effective communication is essential to any relationship. Having the ability to express your thoughts and feelings to your partner is essential to understanding each other's needs and desires. Without it, a relationship will not survive in the long-term.

4. Commitment. Oh no, the dreaded "C" word. In the case of long-term relationships, commitment is expected when you are involved with someone exclusively. The coupled life is one of sharing, and one that normally involves other couples as well. A person looking for commitment understands that it is no longer just about what they wanted as a single person. A commitment includesyour partner's likes and dislikes and a willingness to compromise — if necessary — to keep the relationship going.

4. Trustworthiness. As with honesty, trust is also a key component to any healthy and loving relationship. Without it, you will encounter many negative emotions such as jealousy, insecurity, doubt and hostility. If you do not have faith in your partner, there is no relationship at all. Rihanna's Reunion With Chris Brown: Good Or Bad?

5. Affection. The joy of being in a relationship is that you always have someone to hug and cuddle. People without someone special admit to missing having someone to physically express love with. Whether it is holding hands, kissing or cuddling, it is a great perk. Having someone show you how much they care is a big bonus.

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6. Humor. They say a way to a man's heart is through his belly. This is also true with your ability to make your partner laugh. When you share someone's sense of humor, it makes for a lot of fun and will bring couples closer together when they can laugh and play with each other.

7. Confidence. Confidence is an extremely attractive quality in both men and women. Self-confidence goes a long way and can be seen and felt through one's actions and attitude. A person with great self-esteem and a-can do attitude about life and challenges will inevitably attract members of the opposite sex. 3 Ways 'Love' Benefits Your Health

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9. Independence. Too many people forget that in a relationship, two people who come together to share their lives rather than two people who give up their lives to be with each other. Neither person wants to feel that their partner is totally dependent on them. It's important not to give up your hobbies, interests and friends just because you are now involved in a relationship.

9. Self-sufficiency. Did you know that there are actually health benefits of love when you are in a relationship? People are looking for someone they can grow old with, enjoy activities with and vacation with. Watching your appearance and your health is extremely important to the person looking to find someone for a long-term relationship.

10. Relatability. Everyone wants to find someone down-to-earth, who they can relate to ... someone they feel totally comfortable with both in private and amongst friends, family and strangers. Most great relationships start off as friendships that develop into romantic relationships. Occasionally, an immediately lustful chemistry evolves and matures into true loving. When you find someone that can be your best friend and lover, you feel as if you've found someone who is down-to-earth.

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