Self, Heartbreak

Is Your Partner An Energy Vampire?

The most wide spread human activity on this Planet is not what you think!…What human beings do most, everywhere, anytime, is stealing other human beings' vital energy.

As many Eastern healing arts and medicine (Traditional Chinese Medicine, Ayurveda, etc) describe, we are mainly made of energy, in different levels of density (we have 7 bodies, or energy fields around our physical body). Every day, we burn some of it, a little or a great deal of it, depending on our lifestyle, activities, mental state, relationships. So we need to refill our stock every day, or we end up depleted and sick (not to mention dead).

When we don’t know how to refill our energy stock in a healthy and natural manner, we steal it from others. That's what we learn to do as kids, our first practicing targets being our parents. Human beings are entangled in this ongoing struggle and subconscious competition that explains many behaviors, situations and conflicts.

When we grow up, we are supposed to learn how to let go of the techniques to steal energy. It is not always the case though, and some people become masters at it, and it becomes outright abuse. Problem: the victims are... victims. Being depleted leads to a series of unpleasant to dangerous consequences for the health on all levels.

It is therefore extremely important to know how to regognize those techniques around us, to know who uses them. Many books have been written on that topic and I recommend you read a few.

My favorite is “The Celestine Prophecy“, a milestone book authored by James Redfield. In that book he describes four mechanisms of energy stealing. My practice as an energy therapist brought me to verify those mechanisms.

The Intimidator: Gets others’ energy by threatening, either verbally or physically, oppressing, imposing, and even beating up people. Fear, as a matter of fact, empties the Kidneys meridian, where we stock our vital energy, and where is stored our original (= transmitted by our lineage) energy. The Intimidator triggers fear, and then just has to collect the energy that leaks violently and completely from his victim.

The Interrogator: Gets others’ energy by questioning everything all the time. Children subconsciously use that technique. Adults use it out of excessive curiosity, jealousy, to find the flaws and better belittle or criticize. That mechanism empties the Earth Element (Stomach and Spleen meridians), which regulates self-confidence, the Gall Bladder meridian (focus, imagination, reflection), and the Heart meridian (interaction with others), because personal boundaries are violated.

The Aloof: Gets others’ energy by looking indifferent, withdrawn, mysterious or secretive, which leads others to exhaust themselves trying to get their attention, wondering what is going on, and feeling guilty. That technique drains the Earth Element (self-confidence, anxiety/Spleen).

The Poor Me: Gets others’ energy by complaining, telling you all the horrible things that happened/is happening/will happen to them, and makes you believe it is partly your fault, unless you help them.

While writing that article, I can litterally visualize you putting names on each profile (“That is exactly my partner!”, “Oh yes, my mother always does that!…”)… Very well, because that was my goal! Learn how to recognize the energy thieves, young and old.

But now, think about your own profile. Do you recognize yourself in one (or more) of these descriptions ? If the answer is yes, it is time to change your behavior. Your relationships will benefit wonderfully...

Our energy fields constantly mingle, intertwine, and influence each other. Help yourself, and help others by gorging yourself with energy without stealing it.

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