5 Tips For An Irresistible Online Profile

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Whether you're using the internet to find love or to find new activities and buddies to do them with, it's of chief importance that your profile sings the virtues of the real, uninhibited you. Throughout the course of the 31-Day Love Life Makeover, YourTango Experts have offered tips on how to set new goals for your relationship, how to get over an ex, the best way to communicate, how to behave on a date and how to present your sexiest self. YourTango Experts' final set of advice is all about presenting your best self online. Here's how it's done.

1. Make your profile about you. Many people make the mistake of creating a generic profile that they think sounds and looks good. But generic isn't what most people are looking for in a mate or a friend. Have the courage to be your unique self publicly. That means you list a few descriptors of what you are good at, what you love, and even where you are weak. For instance, I'm a terrible speller. At times, I’m addicted to caffeine. I have been known to eat M&Ms at 10 a.m. I have also been known to stay up til 3 am to finish a novel. Those few sentences told you a lot about me. Think about what makes you uniquely you and let it shine.

2. Avoid these common profile photo mistakes...

* They use stock images and think no one will realize the photos aren’t really of them.
* They post a photo of their dog or kid instead of a photo of themselves.
* They post a photo taken from a distance or with their head turned, so people can’t really see what they look like.

All of those cause people to wonder, "Why doesn’t he/she want me to know what he/she looks like?" I also think its a mistake to pose in what might seem like a creative way. Don't stick out your tongue. Don't contort your face. Don't intentionally look mean or menacing. Just smile. 6 Tips For A Perfect Online Dating Profile

Alisa Bowman, Relationship Coach

3. Don’t go it alone. It's time to put the social into your social networking sites. Grab a friend and have her or him take 100 new digital photos with your new look in 3 outfits with different backgrounds. It's time to let your personality shine, so spice it up with a variety of close ups, full shots, a mysterious pouty look, and one where you're jumping for joy. Take it one step further, and create a video so your friends or potential lovers can hear your voice and see your expression in your face.

4. Go glam and get out the vote. It's time to engage help from your network of friends, so upload 10 of your favorite new photos and create an album on Facebook. Ask your friends to vote and help you select your new primary profile photo. You'll be the star in your own beauty contest. There will be so much buzz surrounding your new look that people will wonder, "Who's that girl?" 3 Critical Steps For Finding Love Online

5. Keep it fresh. Once your social network has helped you select your primary photo, upload it on twitpic.com to your Twitter profile to keep the same look and feel. Go one step further and pick the top 5 shots and revamp your online dating profile if you have an active account. By changing your photos on your dating profile, it will help your profile's rank rise to the top and be more visible in searches. It's a minor tweak with ultimate benefits.

Julie Spira, Dating Coach

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