How To Know If You're A Karmic Mirror – And You Trigger People Around You Just By Being Your Authentic Self

Something about you just rubs them the wrong way.

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Have you ever noticed that some people seem to not like you for seemingly no reason at all? You simply walk into a room and your presence annoys them — sometimes before you’ve even uttered a word. You can’t put your finger on it, but something in the energy between you and them is just ‘off’.

You might just be a karmic mirror.

What exactly is a karmic mirror?

A karmic mirror is someone who has the ability to unconsciously mirror someone's flaws or insecurities back to them.


Karmic mirrors may display some of the same perceived flaws and characteristics that you have, however, they do it loudly and proudly, seeing those traits as a badge of honor and a part of their authentic self, which triggers others who keep those same traits hidden in the shadows, afraid of how people might see you if they are revealed.

TikToker Nina Hayes explained what being a karmic mirror feels like. In a TikTok video, she started by saying that it is a blessing to be one, but that it is “painful” at first to understand that you trigger people. “You literally don’t have to do anything,” she said, explaining that people are simply bothered by you being you. When it first happens, Hayes explained that it’s easy to feel that you need to dim your light to accommodate that person.




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Being a karmic mirror might feel isolating.

As Hayes explains, when you're a karmic mirror, people might tend to avoid you in order to avoid facing uncomfortable truths about themselves. This may make you feel like you need to "turn your light down" in order to accommodate others. However, Hayes emphasizes the importance of always being your true self, no matter what. “If you like it a cool 85 [degrees], the people that want it on 40 [degrees] are gonna have to acclimate or they can leave the room," she said. 

Karmic mirrors are just one type of person who can nudge you to consider the unseen parts of yourself.

A karmic mirror tells you what areas of your ‘shadow self’ need work — whether that be embracing and accepting them or replacing them with healthy traits. The karmic mirror is only in your life for a season or a moment, there to simply reveal what is necessary.


But there are two other types of people you might come across that can also reveal truths about you. Kim Peretz explains in a TikTok video that people can also be windows or doors.

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The window is a person shows you what the possibilities are.

They are the whole and healed version of yourself, sent to guide you in the right direction or inspire you. The window opens your eyes to what you could become. They are something to strive to become — a glimpse into the potential of the future.


The door is a person meant to stay and is a part of your life’s purpose.

This person is the manifestation of what you had hoped to become. The trick to finding the door is that you, yourself must have done the work to heal, focused on your personal growth, and be fully invested in and committed to yourself.

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NyRee Ausler is a writer from Seattle, Washington. She covers lifestyle, relationships, and human-interest stories that readers can relate to and that bring social issues to the forefront for discussion.