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What it's like dating someone with a ISFJ personality
By Isabell Tenorio — Written on Aug 23, 2020
Each Myers-Briggs personality type has many things to offer when it comes to relationships, and each comes with its own set of dating strengths and weaknesses.
The ISFJ personality type is very guarded and reserved, focused, and practical. As a romantic partner, they are loyal, are able to commit, and will take care of you no matter what.
Known as the defender, people with ISFJ personality are unique, as their qualities defy the definition of their individual traits.
Here is a look into their strengths and weaknesses when it comes to dating.
ISFJ Dating Strengths
1. They are very supportive
Always willing to help, ISFJ likes to share their knowledge with everyone and is encouraging when it comes to getting people to succeed. They use all of their time, experience, and energy in many ways when someone needs their help.
2. They are reliable and observant
ISFJ will make sure to get things done before the last minute and believe a steady, patient approach will help them to reach their goals. And although they might not sense emotions in others they are able to observe how others feel with non-verbal communication. They have a natural curiosity that they use to inspire others.
3. They are practical, but will also show a lot of enthusiasm
ISFJ believes that passion should always have a purpose and look for routine in any task they start. However, they believe their hard work makes a real difference in everyone's lives and will push for a result without getting tired.
4. They work hard
ISFJ believes in the power of hard work and the results that come from it, including in their relationships. They know nothing in life comes without putting a little elbow grease into it and will work to make sure their relationship's needs are fulfilled.
ISFJ Dating Weaknesses
1. They tend to be perfectionists and can spread themselves too thin
ISFJ holds themselves to the highest expectations, even when they can be very unrealistic. Even if the process brings in a mistake, they will downplay the success they achieved because they feel like they could have done it better. They also like to help people along the way, but it causes them to try and be everywhere at once. This creates results that will frustrate them, but they won't admit that they need to step back once in a while.
2. They can get really shy
The ISFJ personality type isn't one to speak up, so they're less likely to be open about their feelings about you. They'll also wait for someone else to make the first move, so you may not know right away if an ISFJ reciprocates your feelings.
3. They can take things personally and repress their feelings
ISFJ struggles to accept constructive criticism as they hear negativity that is only meant for them personally. This negativity can carry over into other parts of their lives and feel like everyone is out to get them. This also results in them internalizing everything, even though they do their best to protect other's feelings. They tend to get tired and frustrated as they struggle to express their emotions in a healthy way.
4. They aren't too keen on change
ISFJ values tradition as if they were the rules for life. This causes them to have a really hard time coming around to new ideas and will only change their minds when it is the only choice left. They can be persuaded more by their surroundings than by those who are close to them.
ISFJ Relationships
In relationships, ISFJ personalities see them as important no matter if it’s platonic or romantic. They will tend to keep their true feelings hidden but take commitment seriously.
Watch out, because they will most likely want a lifelong relationship so make sure both of you are on the same page. They put a lot of energy into keeping things running smoothly and have a hard time saying no to things so try not to take them for granted.
Best ISFJ Relationship Compatibility
The other personalities they are compatible with are ISTJ, INFJ, and ESFJ. These personalities share the same values, interests, and general approach to life and will make each other feel comfortable sharing everything.
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Isabell Tenorio is a writer who covers astrology, pop culture, love, and relationship topics.