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Here's how to know if they're really your soulmate.
By Unwritten — Written on Jul 23, 2019
“The one” is the person who walks into your life and changes everything.
It’s the person who walks into our life and we can’t understand how we lived ours before them.
They are a partner that challenges you, they drive you crazy, but they’re still always by your side.
Once you meet them, you can’t understand how you ever lived without them.
How do you know that you have found “the one” in a world with 7 billion other people?
Here are nine ways that you can tell you’ve found “the one.”
1. Just being with them makes you smile
Many partners may give you excited jitters at the beginning of your relationship.
But you know they’re “the one” when you’ve been together for a long time and they still make you smile like it’s the first time you met.
2. They’re by your side no matter what
Even if you’ve had a heated argument or they disagree with the choices you make, they don’t just walk away when the relationship gets hard.
If your partner is truly “the one,” they stay by your side through thick and thin.
3. They treat you as their equal
If your partner is “the one,” they understand that your life is just as important as theirs – and they never make you feel bad about it.
They divide your work and theirs equally.
If they are “the one,” they understand that you have a life of your own and they give you time to enjoy it.
They know that equal treatment is the most precious gift anyone can give.
4. They express their love through actions, not just words
Your partner may say a lot, but “the one” backs up their words with actions.
Even small gestures that show that your partner cares can show that they are “the one.”
5. They can cheer up your gloomy days
Not every day is sunshine and roses and anyone who can lift your mood on your hardest days is worth keeping forever.
Not just anyone can make you smile when you’re feeling down, so if they can, they may just be “the one.”
6. You wonder how you survived without them
Lots of people make you feel like you can’t live without them.
But when you wonder how you possibly lived before a special someone came into your life, they’re probably “the one.”
7. They make you a better version of yourself
You know that you’ve found “the one” when they help you become a kinder, calmer, more successful version of yourself.
This doesn’t mean that they change who you are.
It simply means that “the one” gives you a different perspective and helps you live a happier, more fulfilled life.
8. They help you fight any relationship insecurities you have
Insecurity is a poison that slowly kills many relationships.
The right person, though, will never give you reason to question them or your relationship.
And if your anxiety about the relationship makes you feel insecure, they’ll reassure any doubts you have about their love for you.
9. They accept you with all of your baggage
We all go through tough times in life and have personal baggage we’d rather not share.
However, when someone is meant to be with you, no amount of past trauma will change their decision to stay.
The right person for you will accept you for everything you are, instead of always giving reasons that they should leave.
Some people walk into your life and make you wonder how you ended up with someone so incredible.
They accept you, respect you, and always push you to improve yourself.
When you love someone without reason or explanation and they love you back just as fiercely, you know without a doubt that you have found “the one.”
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Tanzeela Sareea is a writer who focuses on relationships, dating, and love. For more of her relationship content, visit her author profile on Unwritten.
This article was originally published at Unwritten. Reprinted with permission from the author.