Why You Should Not Jump Into A Relationship, By Zodiac Sign
Sometimes it's just better to wait.
It's tempting to jump into a relationship with someone you like because you don't want to miss out on something good that you thought you'd never find.
Let's face it: we all love love. We want the love story, the magic, the spark. Real life isn't always write so magical. Love is complicated and difficult, and often times hard to find.
Too often, we end up meeting someone halfway decent, deciding they have potential, and committing months of our lives on them, only to split up a few short months later. Infatuation can be a major factor in this decision. You get excited about someone, jump into a relationship, and when the infatuation and excitement fades, so does your relationship.
As a young person trying to find love in 2019, I can verify that it's tough. My generation is much more open to casual relationships, open relationships, or one night stands, largely I think because they understand the problem with infatuation and committing too early. I'm not saying that casual sex should be the goal, but I do think that settling too soon can be a fatal mistake.
With almost 50% of marriages ending in divorce, it would seem that we're doing something wrong as a society. However, that being said, divorce and marriage rates have gone down since 2016, meaning that people are more likely to wait longer to get married, and those marriages are actually lasting longer than those who married quickly.
My point is that getting into a committed relationship can be a dangerous mistake to make. I'm a big advocate for waiting until you're sure of someone before committing to each other in any way.
Meeting someone and falling for them is something absolutely incredible, and you shouldn't hold yourself back from doing so, but you should wait to make sure it's going to stick before letting yourself get caught up in the hurricane.
I've put together the reasons you shouldn't jump into a relationship, according to your zodiac sign, to prove once and for all that taking your time is never a bad idea, per astrology.
ARIES (March 21 - April 19)
An Aries is generally fast paced, quickly moving, and competitive. These traits can easily transfer over to your love life, meaning that you may find yourself getting bored with one person, or ready to move on after a short time.
Commitment is about dedication and loyalty, and if you aren't ready to give that, than jumping into a relationship is unfair to both parties. Your new SO may feel that this commitment is something that will last, and breaking it off a month in can be incredibly painful for the other person.
TAURUS (April 20 - May 20)
A Taurus is known to be dedicated, loyal and responsible. They're most likely ready for the commitment already, and they know their limits. However, that doesn't mean that their potential SO feels the same way. If a Taurus begins a relationship too early on, they may end up hurt because the other person wasn't as committed as they were. This can be avoided by seeing someone for a longer period of time before entering into a relationship.
GEMINI (May 21 - June 20)
Geminis absolutely hate being alone, which isn't a bad thing on it's own. However, when it comes to a relationship, a Gemini may feel like they're ready to jump into something committed when the reality is that they're just lonely and looking for companionship. A relationship should be centered around a desire to be with someone, not the desire to stop being alone. Getting into a relationship isn't a bad thing by any means, but it should be for the right reasons.
CANCER (June 21 - July 22)
A Cancers emotional intelligence is no joke, and they can open themselves up to a lot of hurt by committing too early. They're so easily connected with the people around them, and so vulnerable with the strength of their emotions, that they can end up feeling very betrayed if things do suddenly go South.
This can be avoided to some degree if they wait longer to commit than they usually would. Making sure that you know someone and their intentions is an essential part of a relationship, and the relationship may be stronger BECAUSE you waited.
LEO (July 23 - August 22)
A Leo's leadership qualities are indisputable and invaluable in most settings. But when it comes down to the moment where a couple decides if they want to commit, a Leo may end up leading the charge too early.
Another person can easily be caught up in their passion and in their desire to be together, following their lead. However, they may not be sure of their wants or needs, and they may not be really ready to commit. To avoid this problem, a Leo should make their feelings known, but allow the other person to take the lead.
VIRGO (August 23 - September 22)
As a Virgo myself, my stumbling point is that I have a hard time being vulnerable. It's easy for me to fall in love: I see the little things a person does and fall for the way they care for me, the way they care for others, and little gestures of kindness.
But when it comes to the way I feel, I can have a difficult time opening up genuinely and authentically unless I really trust someone. This is common among Virgos, we need time to see that the potential we see in others is really there, and not just our optimistic view of others. Taking the time to see if that is the case is totally worth the wait, and will lead to a strong foundation for a relationship.
LIBRA (September 23 - October 22)
Much like Gemini, Libras dislike being alone. They are also extremely gentle and agreeable. These two traits, when combined with a relationship commitment that was too soon, can actually put a Libra in danger.
They hate confrontation and so they won't stand up for themselves or fight for their own needs. This can lead to a scary power dynamic that leads to an unbalanced relationship. A Libra should never get into a relationship without being confident that their SO won't take advantage of this. They need someone who will really love them, and be just as gentle as they are.
SCORPIO (October 23 - November 21)
A Scorpio who jumps into a relationship too soon is begging to be hurt. Even if their new SO is faithful and loyal, a Scorpio will see danger and betrayal at every turn in a relationship. Waiting to make a commitment allows a Scorpio time to develop trust in their new SO. This kind of trust is the only thing that will keep a Scorpio sane when they are questioning their SO later in a relationship. It's worth the wait to be confident in who you are dating.
SAGITTARIUS (November 22 - December 21)
Being uncommitted is a very natural space for a Sagittarius to exist in. They feel free, able to pursue whatever they desire, and able to chase their own dreams. Being single means they can buy a one way plane ticket, change their goals, and try new things without anything holding them back.
This doesn't mean that they should never settle down, but it does mean that they should be sure they're ready to settle down before they actually do. Settling too soon can trigger resentment and emotions that are unnecessary. A Sagittarius should take their time to commit to make sure they won't run immediately because they feel trapped.
CAPRICORN (December 22 - January 19)
A Capricorn has been ready to settle down since they were young. Practical, traditional, and responsible, they've probably had a wedding board since they were 13, and were acting out their wedding when they were 6 years old with Barbies.
A Capricorn should take their time in choosing someone to settle with because chances are that they will settle too soon, for someone who isn't worth it. It's a tough truth, but many people aren't worth the level of commitment a Capricorn is ready to give. Waiting that extra time can guarantee that your potential SO will know what they're getting into with you, and that you can trust them to be there and stick through it all.
AQUARIUS (January 20 - February 18)
Because an Aquarius is revolted by emotional expression, they should take their time in dating to ensure that their potential partner understands them. Their potential SO needs to know the way in which an Aquarius lives, the pursuits they love, their goals and dreams before jumping into a relationship and ending up surprised with what they ended up with. An Aquarius deserves someone who will meet them at a middle ground and understand the way that they chose to live, rather than demanding more of them.
PISCES (February 19 - March 20)
One of Pisces' main traits is being overly trusting. Waiting to get into a relationship is as simple as that. A Pisces will trust someone too early into dating them, and should take some extra time to measure the depth of the pool before diving in headfirst.
They need that time to be skeptical and draw their own conclusions, in order to build a good relationship and be sure of the person they are dating.
Beth El Fattal is a writer who covers astrology, pop culture and relationships topics.