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They're impossible to avoid.
By Beth El Fattal — Written on Apr 05, 2019
The dreaded 'Come Over' guy. If you don't already know about the come over type, this is the guy who will invite you over every night.
The come over man will flirt and flatter you until you come over, and then as soon as you do, you get dropped hard. Or the type that leads you on only for sex, never taking you on a real date or investing real time into your relationship. This is the guy who dates you when it's convenient and benefits him.
UGH.
And sometimes it's difficult to tell what his true intentions are, because schedules may be not lining up or maybe you two don't have a lot of time. Whatever the excuse, the real reason is that he's a come over guy, and that's all he's ever going to be.
So how do you tell if he's just another 'Come over' guy? Using astrology to look at personality traits from a horoscope standpoint, here's a list of how to tell if he's a come over guy, based on his zodiac sign.
ARIES (March 21 - April 19)
You can tell that an Aries is a come over guy because he’s probably already tried to come over, and maybe isn't interested in anything more. Because Aries are competitive, confident, and capable, they’re very likely to fit the ‘come over’ guy persona. He’s generally leaning more towards a short-term relationship, because Aries men make impulsive decisions and enjoy not being directly tied down.
TAURUS (April 20 - May 20)
A Taurus displays their interest largely through the sense of touch, especially when they’re interest is sexual. You can tell if a Taurus is a come over guy by paying attention to his body language. They’re often very open to a short term hookup, or the ‘you up?’ texts.
GEMINI (May 21 - June 20)
A Gemini may not be the most obvious candidate for a ‘come over’ guy, but because they tend to be somewhat indecisive with what they're looking for, this can lead to some confusion or micommunication of expectations. However, a Gemini man can also be restless and want to pursue you. If a Gemini gives you the 'come over guy' signals, be careful you're not getting into something you don't want to.
CANCER (June 21 - July 22)
Because Cancers tend to get attached easily, they may not be the ‘come over’ type. Their sentiments may stop them from getting involved in something short term or unattached. However, a Cancer man who leads with his passion will definitely be a come over guy. This makes him interested in being there even if it’s just for some late night escapades.
LEO (July 23 - August 22)
A Leo man tends to be extremely confident and a leader to boot. You’ll know a Leo is a come over guy, because he’ll text you first, invite you over, or invite himself over. For a Leo, his passions run hot, and he’s willing to take the first step in asking for what he wants no matter what that is.
VIRGO (August 23 - September 22)
As one of the signs with a shy personality, a Virgo can be difficult to read in this area. They’re buried in their work or hobbies, meaning that they probably won’t be thinking about coming over, but it doesn’t mean they won’t! You can tell that a Virgo is a come over guy by paying attention to their past tendencies, and their interest in you, and the way they interact with you.
LIBRA (September 23 - October 22)
A Libra is very likely to be a come over guy, because Libras are known for hating being alone. He doesn’t want to spend any time alone, and definitely doesn’t want to sleep alone. You can tell they’re ready to head your way if they’re asking what you’re up to and giving hints about the fact that they aren’t busy either. Just make sure he's as serious as you want him to be!
SCORPIO (October 23 - November 21)
Totally. Passionate and assertive, a Scorpio is almost the exact definition of a come over guy. They absolutely live to express emotions, experience life, and be around others. It’s easy to see when a Scorpio is interested, because they will be forward and bold with their intentions.
SAGITTARIUS (November 22 - December 21)
A Sagittarius is one sign that’s a little harder to read here. Since they are extroverted, they may easily find themselves as a come over guy. However, they can also tend to be more responsible and practical, meaning they may decide not to. You can tell the difference by feeling out how they think about a come over situation.
CAPRICORN (December 22 - January 19)
A Capricorn is a master of self control, which means they tend to avoid come over situations. They also have a strong pull towards commitment and family, which means they prefer committed relationships and full dates less focused on sex. However, there are definitely exceptions! Capricorn isn't the most obvious come over guy, so pay attention to the way he treats you and if he treats you like a long term plan.
AQUARIUS (January 20 - February 18)
Aquarius: the quiet problem solvers. An Aquarius man likes the come over situation better than commitment and feelings, as an Aquarius will do anything to avoid expressing emotions. Overall, an Aquarius is aloof and distant. He could definitely fit the bill, just don’t expect too much more than that.
PISCES (February 19 - March 20)
A Pisces loves deep connections and romance, and the come over guy persona doesn’t really fit their aesthetic. If you’re wondering if a Pisces man wants to come over, look toward the way they interact with others and see if they enjoy socializing in that way!
Beth El Fattal is a writer who covers astrology, pop culture and relationships topics.