What You Need In A Life Partner, Per Astrology

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What You Want In A Partner, By Zodiac Sign

People often look for a soulmate when searching for that perfect partner to love.

One reason that a soulmate or twin flame connection is so desirable is a belief that a match made in heaven will result in fewer relationship problems, more romance and love that lasts for a lifetime.

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It doesn't matter what tools you use to try to find lasting, true love, what you want or need from the person you fall in love with (or decide to marry) can be defined by your zodiac sign and personal astrology or horoscope dates. Is it possible to get what you want and need from a partner with zodiac sign compatibility?

Not all relationships are one size fits all. Knowing what you want a need in a life partner is complicated.

Knowing what you need in a spouse isn't something you can only consider if you're already engaged to someone. In fact, you don't even necessarily need to be dating anyone to think about what you need in a lifelong partner.

Thinking about what you need in love to make you happy is just part of life. Think of it like window shopping. You know you want a new coat for winter, and you know that you like certain fabrics, but you're not ready to buy anything just yet.

You might see the perfect coat without really shopping one day, but for now, you just like browsing when you're out and about. 

You don't actually have to go out and find that perfect person until you're ready, but you can figure out what you want so that when you are ready to look for that perfect person, you don't have to waste your time with people who aren't serious.

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Knowing that you need in a spouse is equals parts what you can bring to a relationship and what they can bring to the relationship. You might want someone who is honest and vulnerable about their emotions, but you also need to feel accepted enough to return that honesty and vulnerability.

For a lifelong relationship like marriage to work, both people need to be willing to out their egos aside for each other.

When you're just dating someone, it can be easy to get selfish and only think about what you want or what would make you happy in the relationship, at least until you know for sure that this is the person you want to spend your life with.

But when it comes to figuring out what you need in a spouse, it can't just be about your needs. If you intend to spend your life with someone, the decisions you make need to benefit the relationship, not just you.

This might mean putting aside what you want for what you need – which, granted, may end up being very similar, but it might be two different things, too. Maybe you want someone who can make you laugh, but what you really need is someone who accepts you for exactly who you are so that you have someone to make those dumb jokes with.

Every zodiac sign needs something different in a spouse, but everyone should look for things like acceptance, respect, kindness, loyalty, and understanding too, no matter what else they may need in a partner.

When you do find that perfect person, you have to constantly work to keep the relationship happy, but knowing that you've chosen the right person can help make it easier. Before you can do that, you have to know what's important to you.

Using astrology as a guide, here is what you need in a spouse, by horoscope.

ARIES (March 21 - April 19)

Your ideal spouse is someone you can have endless fun with, Aries. You want to know that, whether you're doing something mundane like grocery shopping or something exciting like trivia night at your favorite bar, your spouse can make anything fun.

Your spouse should also be very energetic and playful. You want someone who can keep up with your unpredictable nature and be down to try anything. Having someone in your life who is just as adventurous as you will keep you on your toes and make life feel that much more fun.

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TAURUS (April 20 - May 20)

The main thing you need in a spouse, Taurus, is someone who can be both easy-going and unwavering. You need someone who can go with the flow and be laidback at times, but also be someone who can prove to you that their love for you is forever.

The perfect spouse for you is someone who shows how much they love you through endless affection – whether that's verbal or physical. They should also be calm and mature, especially when your stubbornness gets the better of you, so that you can work together, not against each other.

GEMINI (May 21 - June 20)

Gemini, you need a spouse who is curious by nature; someone who is interested in learning new things with you, whether that's learning about each other or learning a new skill together. You also need someone who is intelligent, since you respond best to people you can have deep conversations with.

Your spouse should also be witty like you are. You need more than just deep conversations – you need someone who can keep up with your sharp tongue, too. The perfect spouse should also be adaptable to any situation, especially when you have a hard time making and sticking to your decisions.

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CANCER (June 21 - July 22)

One of the main things you look for in a spouse, Cancer, is someone who is empathetic just like you. You want to know that the love of your life understands you and knows what you need. Having a connection that is deep and emotional is a must-have for you.

Your ideal spouse is also someone who is steady, like your rock. You need someone who you know for sure isn't going anywhere, especially when everything else in life seems chaotic and stressful. They should be your protector; someone who makes you feel safe and loved.

LEO (July 23 - August 22)

The most important thing your spouse should be, Leo, is your equal. You are not the kind of person who is dependent on someone, and your spouse shouldn't be totally dependent on your, either. You need someone who can be self-sufficient; someone who can be their own person.

The perfect spouse should also be honest and forthcoming. You want to know that they are able to tell you when something is bothering them so that you can work through it together, rather than shut each other out. As someone who is communicative and vocal about their wants and needs, you need a spouse who can do the same.

VIRGO (August 23 - September 22)

Being with the right person is very important to you, Virgo, so you want to know that your spouse is reliable through thick and thin. You never want to feel like you're second-guessing the relationship, so knowing that your spouse is serious about you is number one.

Speaking of serious, you can sometimes get hyper-focused on serious things in life. You need a spouse who can loosen you up and show you how to have fun. They should be social and exciting, but not too crazy; someone who can offset your thoughtful, serious side.

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LIBRA (September 23 - October 22)

The right spouse for you, Libra, is someone who is consistently supportive of you. No matter where life takes you, you need someone who will always be by your side cheering you on. You also need someone trustworthy, someone you can count on, whenever you need it.

Being able to count on your spouse is especially important when you need help making important decisions. You can sometimes have trouble with this, so your ideal spouse should be decisive. They are a leader for you and will never let you down.

SCORPIO (October 23 - November 21)

You have enough intensity for two people, Scorpio, which is why you need a spouse who is majorly chill. This doesn't mean that they are passive or that they don't care, but it does mean that they are the realist in the relationship when you can't be.

Your ideal spouse should also be your safe place. You need to know that you can count on your spouse to be honest and transparent with you, keep your secrets safe, and support you in everything you do.

SAGITTARIUS (November 22 - December 21)

You need a spouse who sees the world the way you do, Sagittarius. The perfect spouse for you is someone who is enthusiastic and passionate about life, learning, and love. They should be just as lively and excitable as you are.

You also need a spouse who is an optimist just like you. You like looking on the bright side, and you don't want to spend your whole relationship with someone with a negative personality. You also want someone around you can crack jokes with; someone who can keep the laughter flowing and the smiles constant.

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CAPRICORN (December 22 - January 19)

When you look at your spouse, Capricorn, you want to see part of yourself in them. You need a spouse who is just as determined as you, but also a little bit creative – you could use someone who can help you see life from a different angle every now and then.

The ideal spouse should also be predictable. That is, someone who has a plan for life and sticks to it. You can do without the spontaneity or surprises. You want to know that you can count on your spouse to keep you in the loop and go after the same goals as you.

AQUARIUS (January 20 - February 18)

The right spouse for you, Aquarius, is someone who is smart, just like you. You make connections through intelligent conversations and sharing ideas, and your spouse should be someone who is always feeding your creativity.

Your ideal spouse should also be open-minded and idealistic; someone who is willing to try new things and see the world from a different angle. They should also be committed to something bigger than themselves, whether that's a cause they're fighting for or people they're helping.

PISCES (February 19 - March 20)

Pisces, you need a spouse who keeps you grounded. You are a very dreamy, idealistic person by nature, but having someone helping you keep one foot on the ground is ideal. This is so that they can inspire you to realize your dreams and help you bring action to your life.

Your perfect spouse should also be loving and soulful. You respond best to romance and affection, and your spouse should be someone who brings infinite love to your relationship. You need someone you can call home, no matter what.

Emily Ratay is a full-time writer living in Pittsburgh. She's passionate about the environment and feminism, and knows that anything is possible in the right pair of shoes. She plans on writing a non-fiction book in the future.