8 Things Guys Need To Know About Dating An Older Woman

There are some important things to know when dating someone with an age difference.

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By Brittney

I am currently dating someone younger than me and it isn’t easy. I’m not saying he’s a bad guy, but I just don’t tolerate any BS. I am a lot less patient and tolerant of wasting time or playing games. If something isn’t going anywhere in terms of dating, I don’t waste my time. 

I realize that this is usually the other way around and that the guy is older and the woman is younger. Guys are not entirely sure as to what women expect at an older age.


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There are pros and cons of dating in general and at all ages. This is specifically for younger guys who are or intend on dating an older woman. Let’s get to it!


1. Biological Clock

This is for women who want to have babies or a family. Every year they get older makes it less of a possibility to conceive and start a family.

It’s only natural for women who want children to feel as they get older that time is running out. It’s valid and not unreasonable but it could cause potential problems of being too pushy or moving too fast. Just be aware and cognizant of this. Make sure to be reasonable.

2. Baggage

While I do not prefer to call it baggage, people are prone to think of kids, health and so forth as “baggage.” I prefer to call it “life on life’s terms.” Older women may have children or be recently divorced and some men may consider this “baggage.”

There is a possibility of residual effects of certain situations a woman has been through. It’s up to you whether or not her life experiences are too much for you.


3. Societal Norms

Society has issues when people do not conform to the norms. It makes the people feel uncomfortable when they see things or people doing the opposite of what is expected. 

Only you will know if your family or friends will have an issue with you dating an older woman. It’s a downfall because we tend to value the opinions of our friends and family, but it’s okay if we go against what they would do, it’s our life after all.

4. Commitment

Many women do not want to waste their time with meaningless or unfulfilling relationships. Therefore, these women are more likely than not looking for more than a summer fling or casual hookup. 

So, if you’re not looking for anything long-term, spare her time. Some older women do not feel they have the time to waste, so don’t!


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5. Independent

It takes time and experience to become truly independent. This can mean she lives on her own or lives with people and pays her bills on time. Independence is a good thing but also know that an independent older woman comes with being a strong woman as well.

6. Strength and Experience

Some older women will have the experience of a relationship, two or more. More likely than not, they’ll know what they want and what they don’t want. They’re also not afraid of speaking up about it either.

You’ll never have to question where you stand in the relationship. You also have to be willing to let go of the little games people like to play because they don’t have time for that.


7. Wisdom

Older women will have experiences they have gone through that can help you as you go through life. Do not minimize it. Take it for what it is. Some of the wisdom they may give you won’t be needed immediately but I can almost guarantee you will need it at one point in your life.

8. Family

Some older women may already have a child or children from a previous relationship. Also, some older women may want a family and if you don’t want one, you need to be upfront and honest from the beginning. Just be prepared but also understanding regardless of their circumstances.

Older women have a lot to offer young men. They have a wide variety of experience in different aspects of life. It is important to be honest with one another about what your intentions are and where you see the relationship going.


Don’t waste each other’s time by not being on the same page. It will not do any good for either of you. Just be truthful regardless of feeling bad for hurting someone’s feelings because trust me, it’ll hurt a lot more the longer it continues.

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Brittney Lindstrom is a licensed professional counselor and certified rehabilitation counselor.