10 Notes I Wrote To Myself When I Felt Very Single & Lonely

Writing can help you feel less alone.

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By Nicole Garbanzos

I was looking through my phone recently, and found under my notes folder, that I had a bunch of letters of encouragement I wrote to myself all the years I was alone.

A small percentage of you reading this probably know that I was single for a while. The rest of you can mostly understand that the single life can be fun and very freeing, but it can also be lonely and depressing.


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While I was looking through all the entries I wrote, I figured I’d share them with you. The following below are portions of each letter I found that I feel would either motivate you, inspire you, or simply let you know that you’re not alone this 2019.


Letters to My Future Husband

September 22, 2014

“My dearest, I want you to know that you’re going to be marrying someone who has survived and thrived through thick and thin.”

November 4th, 2016

“I am terrified of you knowing about the bad things I’ve done in the past and seeing my physical body naked. I am so scared of everything that’s not so lovable about me, regardless of how much you say you love me.”

Letters to Myself

May 6, 2015

“Someday you will meet the man of your dreams, though you will probably not know he is the one for you from the first moment you meet. You may not meet him today, tomorrow or even next week, but he will show up one day. Let God guide you, maintain the love in your heart and you will meet him soon.”


May 28, 2016

“I continue to face every one of my fears, I have been honest with myself to the point of breaking down and crying because of every wrongdoing I have done. I meditate daily to protect the thoughts I have now, I am a work in progress, and I am still learning and healing every day from the 18 years I have been damaged. Life goes on, as do I.”

July 24, 2016

“I am so freaking proud of you. The journey you have been on has been treacherous but look at you now! Look at what you’re becoming. I honestly don’t know where you’re getting all this motivation from, but it’s pretty full and that’s all that matters.”

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Letters to My Exes

May 12, 2015

“You’ve ruined me by leading me on while I let all my walls down for you. I broke so many rules for you. I didn’t want to care about your appearance because I wanted to prove that worthiness isn’t measured on the outside. Now I’m stuck cleaning up after your mess you couldn’t clean up yourself.”

June 19. 2016

“He was the biggest settler I’ve come across. The idea of having dreams were like poison to him. Whenever I would talk about my goals and aspirations, he would turn them down and tell me I was taking life too seriously. He didn’t love me, he loved the idea of me.”


May 15, 2016


“The minute you invest in yourself, the more valuable you become.”

June 15, 2014

“Hate will always lose one way or another. It comes from a place of fear, which is a weakness. Hate doesn’t possess a clear mind, it’s hurt, and it’s scared.”


June 18, 2015

“I have friends who I sincerely love. For years, I have struggled with friendships in my life. I couldn’t make a genuine friend because I wasn’t genuine to myself. Today I’m surrounded by people who are ambitious and hardworking; they are visionaries.”

Many of these journal entries don’t necessarily highlight your typical “single girl, waiting for the one to come along” storyline, but I felt like I should share these with you to highlight the growth of the journey I went through when I was alone. I want to show you that although there are days when loneliness takes over, there are also days when wisdom takes its place. Everything you are going through at this moment is preparing you for the next one to come.

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Nicole Garbanzos likes writing about the concepts behind relationships, loving yourself, and female empowerment.