5 Biggest Mistakes Women (Unconsciously) Make That Keep Them Single

By David Wygant

I got a great email the other day from a woman who was writing just to brag about how amazing she is, but had one question: "Why am I single?"

Actually, she said she was writing to ask me why can’t ever get a boyfriend. Her email, however, was entirely about how great she is. She told me that she was successful. She’s sexy. She can run her own business. She’s running her own department.

Don’t get me wrong. I’m thrilled that this woman feels so confident about herself. The problem for a lot of women like this is that they take their business side with them when they go out on first dates. They act like interrogators when they're on a date. They don’t flirt. They sit there and basically conduct a date like a business interview, asking the guy questions and putting him on the spot.

Here are the 5 biggest mistakes women unconsciously make that keep them single:

1. Conducting your date like a business interview

When a woman is not very flirtatious, the guy will leave that dating feeling like he’s just been on a job interview. He will be wondering why this woman interrogated him for two hours. He will be wondering why, on the first date, she asked him whether he wants to have kids and how many kids he wants to have.

I have seen women do this over and over again. They think that they are weeding out the wrong guys by asking all these questions on a first date. In reality, though, they are conducting a business interview. A date is not a business interview. A date is a way for you to get flirtatious, have fun, and be sexy and playful.

All these questions you’re firing at the guy, you will find out anyway. Within the first month, you are going to find out about all this stuff you seem too anxious to know on date number one. You don’t need to drill someone about them on the first date.

2. Competing with the guy

So many women who compete with men in the business world take that same personality and compete with men on dates. I know that when I was single, I never cared if a woman made more money than I did as long as she didn’t act like an interrogator on our date.

As a man, I don’t need to be the breadwinner. I just want to feel wanted and desired — sexually and emotionally. The problem is that a lot of these women don’t allow a man to feel that on a date. They are adversarial.

3. Forgetting to flirt

You need to flirt on a date. Period.

What do I mean by flirting? You need to look into a guy’s eyes, smile, compliment him, and laugh when he says something funny. When you don’t do these things, you’re just in business mode. This is what so many women do. They stay in business mode instead of being in flirtatious, fun mode.

4. Not touching him

Another thing that a lot of women fail to do on a first date is touch. No, I don’t mean to grope a guy or touch him in any kind of overtly sexual way. Not touching a guy at all, though, is a mistake.

Touch his hands or his shoulder as you walk. If you don’t touch a guy at all, then you’re not showing any form of sexual communication. Touching a guy in this way is just a nice, subtle way to show the guy that you’re interested.

5. Not dropping any hints

Would you like to get together again? You need to drop some hints. Men love little hints.

Say you’re talking over dinner and he mentions his favorite band (which happens to be a favorite band of yours as well). Instead of just saying that you love that band’s music, say something like “I think they’re coming here in concert soon.” By saying that, the guy will be likely to say something like, “If they’re playing here soon, then you and I are going.”