How To Make Him Feel Loved (& Less Insecure), By Astrology Zodiac Sign
When a guy has been hurt in the past it can rock his confidence.
unsplash You want him to know how much you love him, so when he seems a little bit scared by how much he cares for you, you want to encourage his fears away.
Everybody has insecurities. Sometimes, relationships can give us a confidence boost while other times they can bring out our insecurities even more. You may not realize when you're making your partner feel insecure. It might not even be your fault.
Bad experiences in past relationships can cause insecurities to creep into a new one. When this happens, it's important to talk to your partner about their past and remind them that you're a totally different person from his ex. Assure him that you'd never do the same thing to him.
Make him feel appreciated by not forgetting to say thank you. Thank him for even the little things, like when he brought home your favorite snack or when he gave you that really big hug you needed after a long day. It will make him feel valued and show that you love having him around. He'll also keep doing those special little things because he knows you appreciate them!
Good communication truly plays a big role in successful relationships. Talking things out when he feels insecure or when one of you is feeling upset or hurt helps a lot. Don't ever hold feelings in because it will bottle up inside of you until it explodes! That explosion will NOT be a good thing for the relationship, trust me!
Be aware of the things you might be doing to make your partner's insecurities come through and don't be afraid to talk it out with him. When you do this you encourage him to focus on the love rather on his feelings of fear, which can be overcome with time.
Using astrology as a tool, keep on reading to know the ways each zodiac sign makes their partner feel insecure, by horoscope.
ARIES (March 21 - April 19)
Aries, you like taking on leadership roles and come across as super independent and confident! While these are all great traits, they might also be the cause of your partner's insecurities.
Men love to feel needed. Your confident ways and natural ability to lead may make him feel like you don't have a place for him in your life. It could have been the quality that attracted him to you in the first place.
It might also make him feel like he's useless and that's one of the worst feelings anyone could have. If you see your partner's insecurities coming out, mention it to him. Let him know how much he's loved and appreciated and that you want him in your life.
TAURUS (April 20 - May 20)
Taurus, you can be possessive and overprotective at times. Possessiveness in a relationship can quickly come off as you being insecure and untrusting. If you're with somebody who's also insecure, this could be a recipe for disaster.
Your partner might show his insecurities by being possessive of you too and that makes for a very unhealthy and codependent relationship. If you trust your partner, loosen the reigns. And if you don't trust your partner, then why are you with somebody you can't trust? Try and let go of your own insecurities and your partner might sense this and do the same.
GEMINI (May 21 - June 20)
Gemini, you're known for being indecisive. This can bring on a lot of insecurities from your partner. One day, you might give him so much love and affection, while the next day you just send him one text.
Your indecisiveness and ability to change ways so quickly can leave your partner confused and wondering if you even want to be with him. You're also very social and love being around people.
While it's important to go out with others and spend time apart, make sure you give your partner an equal amount of attention. They might start feeling neglected by their social butterfly Gemini and it can also cause those feelings of insecurity.
CANCER (June 21 - July 22)
Cancer, you are known for being emotional, yet oftentimes you keep those emotions to yourself. Sharing your personal life with someone else can be an uncomfortable, huge task for you.
Your own fears of opening up to someone and your ability of closing off can bring on insecurities in your partner. They might feel like they did something wrong that caused you to shut down from them.
I know it's hard, but opening up to your partner will make you feel closer to them. The relationship will be stronger and it will make them feel so special to know that they're one of the only people you trust to share your emotions with.
LEO (July 23 - August 22)
Leo, you may act lazy while also expecting a lot from your partner. If your partner's the one putting in all the effort and he doesn't see that same amount of effort reciprocated, his insecurities could start to pop up.
He'll feel like you don't care enough about the relationship and that he's trying too hard to make it work. Start showing you care by making him feel as special and as loved as he makes you feel.
If you start to put in the effort, he'll be able to tell right away and it will balance out the relationship better. Nobody wants to feel like they're the one putting in all the effort to make something work. You have to work together. Relationships are a team, and a give and take.
VIRGO (August 23 - September 22)
Virgo, you like things done a certain way and expect everyone to be like you. Your partner and you aren't the same person. Don't expect him to always want the same things and act the same way as you.
Your partner might feel judged by you all the time and that can make him really insecure. Nobody likes to be told that they're doing something wrong everyday. Don't be too critical of your partner.
Accept him for who he is, because we are all different and our differences are what makes us each unique. If you notice yourself starting to be judgmental, learn to control it. Your judgmental ways could slowly start eating away at his confidence. He won't want to be with someone that constantly puts him down. Instead, learn to uplift him and bring positivity into the relationship.
LIBRA (September 23 - October 22)
Libra, you sure know how to hold a grudge! Holding grudges are unhealthy. They can lead to a lot of unnecessary pent up anger, negativity and pettiness. If your partner did something to upset you and you both already addressed it, move on from the issue.
If it was something that really affected you, either take some time apart or break up. Holding the grudge will only make things worse in the relationship. You and your partner won't be able to move past the issue and it will continue to cause problems.
Your partner will fell insecure because of the one mistake they made that caused you to hold such a long grudge against them and you'll begin to grow apart the more you fight over the same issue.
SCORPIO (October 23 - November 21)
Scorpio, you are known for being secretive at times. Even if you aren't hiding anything, it can come across like you're doing something suspicious. Your partner might sense this and feel insecure.
A million thoughts could be running through his head. Thoughts that are most likely negative, and those thoughts will bring about insecurity. If you're acting secretive, the first thing he could be thinking is that there's someone else in the picture.
The thought of you cheating on him will be stuck in his head and it will start to add tension to the relationship. Try to be more open with him and make sure you're having those tough conversations when either of you is feeling off about something.
SAGITTARIUS (November 22 - December 21)
Sagittarius, you can't be tamed. You don't like being clingy and you hate being constrained. A Sagittarius needs to roam free and be able to do their own thing. Your partner might not realize this at first and that's where the insecurities come in.
It might feel like you're not interested in them, when really, you just don't like being too dependent on somebody else. If he's a clingy guy, your extroverted ways will only make him want to cling on tighter.
Sagittarius, you're also known for having no filter. You say things whenever you feel like it, no matter how insensitive it may come across. Your words can hurt your partner and it can make him lose self confidence. Try to word things in a nicer way and address any expectations about the relationship in the beginning so your partner isn't left feeling like you don't care about them.
CAPRICORN (December 22 - January 19)
Capricorn, you're stubborn and you come off as a know-it-all at times. This can make your partner feel like he's not as intelligent as you. It will make him insecure because he'll feel like you have no use for him.
He'll feel like you already know everything, so there's nothing left for him to teach you or tell you. Relationships are a learning experience and it's important to have a partner who's going to teach you new things.
Capricorn, it's ok to be wrong sometimes. Don't let your stubbornness get the best of you and your relationship. Sometimes, being right isn't worth the long, meaningless argument.
AQUARIUS (January 20 - February 18)
Aquarius, you are an independent person. Unlike some relationships, you never rely on your partner. Why ask someone to do something for you when you can do it yourself? Your independence can make your partner feel like you don't want him around and this can start to make him insecure.
He'll feel like you don't need him and that will make him hold on even tighter to the relationship. His clingy attitude will start to annoy you and this can be the cause of many fights. You also run from emotional expression and your partner will feel like you're being cold.
He'll insist something's wrong and he'll try to sit you down and question you until he gets answers. If he's sitting you down for an interrogation session like you're a criminal, he's acting insecure. Be open and honest from the start about what you want out of the relationship so that neither of you ends up disappointed.
PISCES (February 19 - March 20)
Pisces, you're good at playing the victim in any argument. This leaves your partner as the one who's always at fault for everything. Your partner is the one taking majority of the responsibility during a fight.
Remember, it takes two to tango. Sometimes, you might be just as guilty for something as he is. If you constantly play the victim, he'll feel insecure because you'll make him feel like he's always doing something wrong.
Don't be afraid to own up to your own mistakes. He'll appreciate you taking the responsibility for when things go wrong. Don't let the burden fall on him all the time.
Lauren Margolis is a writer who covers astrology, pop culture and relationship topics.