We're all a little anxious!
By Rebecca Jane Stokes — Written on Oct 09, 2018
I was practically born anxious. Sure, it's not like I could talk or anything, what with being a new, wet, angry baby, but if I had been able to speak you can bet that I would have had a lot of things to share with the world about just what I was worried about. While not everybody out there is an anxious a human being as I might be (consider yourselves very lucky), we all have days where we get at least a little bit anxious.
One of the most common places for our anxiety to manifest is inside of our romantic relationships. But because it is almost impossible to be totally objective about yourself, this isn't always something that we can see, which is a problem. Because anxiety isn't just bad for you, it's bad for your relationship. Luckily, I've got a hack, and it comes in the form of this free personality test.
Unlike many a personality quiz or personality test, this one is a bit different. If the first step towards fixing a problem is seeing it, this optical illusion has you covered. All you need to do is take this test and you'll find out what anxious thing you're the most likely to do in your relationships.
What you do with that information is entirely up to you, but I'd hope it would be something productive. The test itself couldn't be any easier: just look at the image below and pay close attention to what you see first. Then, scroll down and read about how what you saw reveals the most anxious thing you do in relationships. Ready? Let's go!
The silhouette
If you saw the silhouette first, your anxiety manifests early and often in your relationships, but your partner doesn't know it. You are very adept and presenting a cool, collected facade not just to the world at large, but even to the people closest to you.
If you don't learn to share your concerns about your relationship with your partner, you run the risk of losing them. There's nothing wrong with sharing your insecurities and fears with your partner; in fact, it's mandatory if you plan on going the distance
The tree
If you saw the tree first, your anxiety doesn't rear its head in your relationship for quite some time. That's because it really takes you some time to grow into a relationship, to find your roots, and acknowledge that this other person is someone you can count on to be in the long-term.
You're likely to become jealous of your partner spending time with others, but only after you've been together for a little while. Remember, not everyone wants what you have, and just because they're important to you that doesn't mean you're going to lose them.
The bird
If you saw the bird first, anxiety doesn't play much of a role at all in your relationship. Maybe it does a tad in the early days, but that's in the same way that anxiety falls on everyone who is just starting out with a new lover.
Once you get over the hump of those awkward new few weeks, you're bound to find your anxiety retreating. But remember, just because you aren't the anxious type, that doesn't mean that your partner isn't! Be open and receptive to any of their concerns. It will help foster trust.
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Rebecca Jane Stokes is a writer living in Brooklyn, New York with her cat, Batman. Her work focuses on relationships, pop culture and news. For more of her work, check out her Tumblr.