The Dark Side Of The ENFJ Myers Briggs Personality Type

The Myers-Briggs personality test is an online test aimed at finding out your specific personality type. There are 16 total personality types that someone can fall under. The test takes about 5 minutes and you answer all sorts of questions ranging from how you handle situations to your outlook on life.

At the end of it, you get your result. 

I recently took the online test and discovered that I am the Protagonist type, or ENFJ-T. 

The cool news is that Protagonists have a lot of really great qualities. I'm happy to say I'm in some fantastic company with the likes of President Barack Obama, Oprah Winfrey, and even the original James Bond, Sean Connery. Not bad!

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With anything though, there's always negative aspects as well. Nobody is perfect. Even Oprah.


So, listen up fellow ENFJ-T's! Not everyone is perfect, so here's a few things that make us ENFJ folks, well... complicated.

1. We tend to push people beyond their limits.

Protagonists believe in others, which is great, but that also means this personality type can push people beyond their limits. If someone else isn't ready or willing, it can cause problems.

2. We struggle to make tough decisions (and don't know how to say "NO").

We protagonists tend to put the problems of others onto ourselves. By doing so, we are at risk of being held back by the limitations of others.

While this Myers Briggs personality type has some nice strengths, there's also weaknesses to account for as well. These weaknesses include: being overly idealistic, too selfless, fluctuating self-esteem, and the struggle to make tough decisions. 

The nice thing about actually knowing the weaknesses that you have though, is that you are better equipped to work on them. 

3. When it comes relationships, we avoid conflict.

We want to make sure our partners are happy, but sometimes it's at the cost of our own well-being. For Protagonists, if we are not careful, that eagerness to please and sacrifice our own needs can lead to resentment.

We tend to be great at making friends and really put in the effort to maintain relationships with people. Our optimism and enthusiasm for self-improvement, however, isn't always a match with the people around us.

There are other Myers Briggs personality types who are more comfortable with the status quo, and it's best for Protagonists to not get too caught up in wanting to help that person. It can cause a rift. 

4. Our fear of conflict gets in the way when it comes to parenting and disciplining our kids.

Something else we should be mindful of is our fear of conflict when it comes to parenting. Kids, as we all know, need discipline. However, this is not a strong suit of a ENFJ-T personality type. 

Protagonists will also struggle with children becoming independent and rebellious. Because Protagonists are overly-sensitive, they can take criticisms from their kids more personally. 

5. We are easily taken advantage of.

When looking at career paths, it's important to know the types of jobs that compliment your personality, as opposed to the ones that will constantly leave you feeling guilty or emotionally exhausted. Emergency responders, the military, and police enforcement will leave a Protagonist quickly burned out.

This personality type has a terrible habit of underestimating his or herself, especially in work situations. 

Protagonists are eager and willing to help, but sometimes this can lead to receiving too much work and feeling overwhelmed. What makes matters worse is that you'll avoid conflict by not speaking up and continue to accept the extra work, even if it is too much for you to handle. 

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Protagonists definitely see the glass half-full, but that idealism can also be considered a liability as well. We have a difficult time facing negative truths, which can cause us to not feel like we have a firm grasp of who we are as a person. 

The good news is that anything life can be improved upon and these weaknesses don't have to define us. They can be conflicts for us to overcome. 

I know, I know. Sounding like a true Protagonist....


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Jill Zwarensteyn is a writer and Michigan native. When she's not writing, Jill enjoys Zumba class, travel, and referencing classic Seinfeld episodes.

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