What Makes Someone A Good Kisser? 6 Signs You're Really, Really Good At Kissing

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Kissing, like all intimate situations with someone else, is totally dependent upon the experience. When it's great, it's a memorable moment that leaves you wanting more. You'll also probably find yourself walking around with a silly grin on your face the next day too. It was that good!

When it is bad though, it's something that you want to forget as soon as possible. 

Physical chemistry, especially when it comes to kissing, is crucial for the success of a relationship to work.

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Let's be honest, it's impossible to have an intimate relationship with another person if you also happen to cringe every time the two of you kiss. You should want to kiss! The art of kissing can be really fun.

There's nothing like a good, old-fashioned make-out session.

When it comes to being a great kisser, sometimes it takes practice and other times, you're just a natural. Unfortunately though, knowing whether or not our kissing techniques are on par is not so easy. 

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If you are good, your partner may tell you in the moment, especially if it's your first time kissing. That's always nice to hear. On the other end of the spectrum though, most of us have the common decency to not tell someone to his or her face that it was a terrible experience.

That begs the question then: How do we know where we stand when it comes to kissing? 

The best way to look at the situation it is to find out what is considered a good kissing and see if those qualities apply to you. Obviously, this is a subjective topic, but based on the the views of both experts and regular people, there seems to be common trends for what are considered good kissing techniques. 

If you're feeling like you need to amp up your kissing game, read below to see the qualities that make someone an excellent kisser. 

1. You are in tune with the other person.

Kissing has been compared to both a dance and a conversation. A dance, however, would be the best analogy since that is also a non-verbal form of communication.

When two people kiss, it's about connecting with the other person, not a competition between the both of you. You are two people coming together as one. If one person takes the lead first, then the other person can take the lead, but more than anything, it should feel organic and connected.

A great suggestion if you need a moment to better connect with your partner would be to stop kissing and just look into each other's eyes. It's a very intimate experience and can help you both get on the same page - and also give your lips a quick rest too. 

2. You understand the proper amount of tongue to use.

Depending on who you ask, the use of tongue gets mixed answers. Some people want more of it, while others complain that it is too much. Like most things in life, moderation is key.

If you notice your partner likes to use tongue a little more than you're used to, meet them half way. If you're someone who prefers to use tongue more, don't overdue it. No one wants to feel like their mouth is being attacked with your tongue. 

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3. You don't stick to only kissing the lips.

Believe it or not, a successful makeout session can involve more than just kissing the lips. One of the most popular spots for women in particular is the neck, but this can also be a turn on for guys as well.

There are different erogenous zones that can be included while kissing as well. Feel free to mix it up! Your partner will thank you.

4. You use your hands.

When kissing someone, you shouldn't just stand there with your arms at your side. Embrace them! Take them in your arms as you are making out. You can also put your hands on the back of their neck or head. I

f your partner has a great head of hair, utilize that and run your fingers through it. That is hot! 

5. You know how to mix it up with types of kisses you're using.

In addition to kissing, you can also incorporate things like biting, sucking, and licking as well. Remember though, everything in moderation. You're not Dracula or Lassie.

It's important to check in with your partner though. If he or she is responding positively to something, that's good. If you can tell they aren't into it, then stop. This goes back to the whole idea of being in tune with one another.

6. You are considerate when it comes to personal hygiene. 

If you're in an intimate situation with someone, it's also important to be considerate of our partner as well. If you're going to kiss someone, YES — absolutely make sure you have fresh breath.

No matter how great of a kisser you are, if your breath is bad, it's still a huge turn off.

Something else to consider is cologne and perfume. We've all come across the people whose perfume or cologne you can smell a mile away. When you're kissing someone, you should smell nice but not overpowering. Your partner is trying to make out with you, not 'cool mountain rain'.

Jill Zwarensteyn is a writer and Michigan native. When she's not writing, Jill enjoys Zumba class, travel, and referencing classic Seinfeld episodes.