7 Signs You've Outgrown Your Partner & Need To Move On With Your Life (Without Them)

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You are overqualified for your ex and you know it. You are more mature and know that there is an expiration date on the relationship looming soon. Your partner is holding you back, not just physically, but emotionally too. You need to think about whether your relationship is detrimental or helpful to you.  You have a feeling something is up but don't want to come to that realization. 

You know in the back of your head that things need to change or you will be sitting on your dreams and not going after it. You are not suppose to push your dreams aside for your partner and you shouldn't have to.  Don't let anything hold you back from reaching your full potential, not even your partner. If you want something go and get it and don't let anybody tell you different.  

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If you feel that you are putting more up in your relationship, and picking up the tab every single time, then you need decide if this relationship is working for you.  It's ok to leave and move on sometimes if someone isn't a good fit.  It's even okay to be alone, because you have time to figure out what you want and focus on your needs alone.

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Whatever you decide make sure it's what you want and you are happy for yourself. If you're still unsure on whether or not you have outgrown your partner, read and see if the 7 signs match up with your relationship. 

1. You aspire to do more.

You always look to the future and picture yourself doing more and giving back to others. On the other hand your partner might not have the same ambitions as you and are struggling to realize their dream. Its not fair to bring your standards and your dreams down for someone. 

2. You always pick up the bill.

It's ok to pick up the bill once in a while or take turns paying the bills as a couple.  If you notice that you are always the one who is picking up the bill, there might be a problem. Your money is what you earned, it should be a gift that you are spending your hard earned money that you worked on, on a partner who doesn't pull their weight in the first place.

3. You feel like the parent in the relationship.

You cant be a parent to a grown , you have to grow up sometime and not while yu are in a relationship with someone else. You don't need the stress of taking care of yourself and an who cant grow up.  Some people don't want to grow up, but should have to make anyone want to be a responsible . 

4. You feel stuck and you're not growing in the relationship (and neither is your partner).

Your partner should challenge you and make you want to accomplish more in your life. If you partner isn't motivated and doesn't have a plan for their wn life, how can they motivate you and bring you to your highest potential.  You need to challenge yourself or you wont know what your highest poteinal could be.

5. You feel like you are doing all the work.

You don't need to stress yourself out. You are doing the work and you need to be supported.If your spouse is not supporting you in the way that need you need to set boundaries and task for your spouse and you to accomplish and purse to make the partnership equal.

6. Your gut is telling you that you need to move on.

Your instinct is your best friend.  You need it to make the final decision in important situations. If you feel that you need to move on with your relationship you should listen to your gut and go for it. 

7. Your friends and family are confirming your suspicions.

Your friends and family know you. They see from the outside looking in and have a different perspective. You might get defense when they confront you about your relationship, but it might be helpful in the end.

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Njeri Dean is a writer who covers love, relationship advice, astrology and personality topics. When she’s not writing, she enjoys spending her time reading romance novels.

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