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Maybe they're just friends.
By Rebekah Ludman — Written on Jun 29, 2018
There are so many reasons as to why he may still talk to his ex-girlfriend, sometimes it’s nothing to be worried about … and sometimes it is.
I know automatically alarms start going off in your head as soon as you find out that he is still in contact with his ex-girlfriend, but instead of freaking out and assuming he hasn’t moved on, talk to him and voice your concerns.
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When a guy still talks to his ex-girlfriend, most may assume that he’s still stuck on her and can’t move on. In reality, they may have been able to become friends after their relationship. You need to trust him and try to be open with him about this.
In reality, talking to him is the best thing you can do. Open communication is SO important to maintain a healthy and successful relationship. A large part of determining why he’s still in contact with his ex-girlfriend is how you found out that they’re still talking. If he told you as soon as they started talking again or if they had been talking then that shows you right away that he isn’t trying to hide something and wants you to be okay with it.
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When he tells you and is completely honest with you about this, it shows that he cares about your feelings and knows that this may be something you’re uncomfortable with but wants to make you as comfortable as he possibly can.
When it comes to these types of situations in a relationship, you really need to trust your boyfriend. Sometimes it can be so hard because your jealousy can take over, but STAY STRONG!
If you have a really bad feeling about your boyfriend and his ex-lover staying in touch and talking, then you REALLY need to talk to him about what’s going on in your head so he can reassure you that it’s absolutely nothing to worry about.
The worst thing you can do is keep your feeling to yourself and let the jealousy take over because sometimes, you may even become too paranoid about the situation. This may even cause your boo to think that you don’t trust him and start problems in your relationship. This is why it’s extremely important to have open communication in a relationship, to prevent problems involving trust or dishonesty in your relationship.
Again, there are so many reasons, including horoscope personality traits, and astrological similarities that make people stay friends after a breakup. So, why he may still be talking to his ex-girlfriend, don’t automatically jump to conclusions, TALK ABOUT IT!
If you’re trying to gain more insight into why he might still talk to his ex-girlfriend, then you have come to the right place! Here’s why he still talks to his ex-girlfriend, by his zodiac sign.
ARIES (March 21 - April 19)
When an Aries is still talking to his ex, you have nothing to worry about. It’s in his competitive nature to always want to win, even when it comes to the break-up. Of course, he doesn’t want to actually hurt his ex, but he still wants to win.
Don't’ worry about this though, he’s not really one to brag about how great he’s doing, so she won’t actually know he’s winning. It’s purely just for himself. Just don’t look too much into it, despite his impulsiveness, he is extremely loyal to you and isn’t going to be impulsive when it comes to your relationship. He would never do anything to intentionally hurt you.
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TAURUS (April 20 - May 20)
As long as he is only talking to his ex and not actually going to meet up with her, like a lunch or something of the sort, you have absolutely NOTHING to worry about. He’s one to have many friendships, even if it is his ex. To him, it’s only something more than friends when it’s physical. The good thing about a Taurus too is that you can rely and depend on him, he won’t let you down. Just trust in him and you two will go far.
GEMINI (May 21 - June 20)
The only reason a Gemini is still talking to his ex is that he LOVES to socialize, it’s just in his nature. He loves to have many, many friends and is one of those people that can turn an old relationship into just a friendship without it being really awkward.
A Gemini is always socializing, so when it comes to him talking to his ex, don’t worry too much about it. Just be open with him about your feelings and he will reassure you that there is nothing to worry about.
CANCER (June 21 - July 22)
When it comes to a Cancer, you must be careful when they’re talking to their exes. Although they care about you deeply and would never intentionally jeopardize your relationship, he gets very attached to people and it can be hard for him to move on from an old relationship completely. He can get very emotionally attached to those around him, so if you’re really concerned about him talking to his ex then talk to him about your concerns and hope that he actually listens to you.
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LEO (July 23 - August 22)
One of Leo’s best traits is the ability to solve even the most complicated of problems, this is definitely reassuring. When it comes to talking to his ex, it’s nothing serious at all. He just loves to have a good time with friends and is most likely seeing her as JUST a friend, nothing more. If you’re uncomfortable about him talking to his ex, talk to him. He will use his problem-solving skills to help fix the problem before it escalates, he truly cares about you and your feelings.
VIRGO (August 23 - September 22)
If a Virgo is still talking to his ex, she is definitely being friend-zoned. Your boo is EXTREMELY loyal to you and would NEVER do anything to jeopardize your relationship, so if he is still talking to his ex-don’t you worry he has no intentions to reignite things with her because he only cares about you. With him, your mind is at ease because he only has eyes for you and will always remain loyal to you.
LIBRA (September 23 - October 22)
Don’t freak out if a Libra is still talking to his ex, instead talk to him about it. He’ll never intentionally hurt you, but sometimes if he’s feeling lonely and vulnerable people can take advantage of him … even his ex.
He’s one who can’t stand to be alone! Just talk to him about the situation and let him know how you’re feeling, he’ll understand because chances are that he’s felt the same exact way in the past. Just remain open, patient, and honest … everything will work out in the end.
SCORPIO (October 23 - November 21)
When a Scorpio is still talking to his ex, it could be for a couple of reasons. Either he still has some sort of feelings for her that he just can’t shake or he only sees her as a friend and may be oblivious to any accidental flirting that may be taking place. Either way, you should talk to him about it and help clear the air. The good thing about him is that he will tell the truth about anything that is going on and about how he is feeling. You just need to trust in what he says and it’ll all be okay.
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SAGITTARIUS (November 22 - December 21)
Just talk to him about anything that you’re feeling and he will help reassure you that everything is okay. Sometimes when he’s talking to his ex it’s purely because he’s an extrovert and doesn’t really see her as more than a friend anymore.
Other times it’s because there are some unresolved feelings there and he’s just trying to figure it out before he moves on. Yes, it can be unfair to you, but just TALK to him. Let him know that you’re uncomfortable with the situation. Most likely, he will help to reassure you and do anything to make you happy.
CAPRICORN (December 22 - January 19)
You literally have NOTHING to worry about when a Capricorn is still talking to his ex. He’s probably only talking to her for a specific reason, not just to talk. A Capricorn has a lot of discipline and self-control so you never EVER have to worry when he’s still talking to his ex. Just be patient with him and trust that he won’t do anything to hurt you, the whole situation will eventually blow over.
AQUARIUS (January 20 - February 18)
When an Aquarius is still talking to his ex, it’s probably because she’s starting the conversation every single time. To him, it probably means absolutely nothing besides talking to another person.
He most likely doesn’t see her as more than just another person. If it’s bothering you at all, you should just communicate that with him because he’s probably not thinking too much about the situation and doesn’t realize how it may be affecting you.
PISCES (February 19 - March 20)
He might just be helping her out with a problem or something that is happening in her life. His selfless nature means that he’s always trying to help out others despite the history that he may share with that person.
His intentions are the best, he just always wants to help others out. Even though you may be worried about this friendship that he’s carrying out with his ex, you should know that he would never hurt you.