What He Needs To Feel Truly Loved, Based On His Love Language

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How To Be A Good Girlfriend Based On Your Boyfriend's Love Language

This will keep him (and your relationship) happy.

Has there been a time in your relationship when you didn't see eye to eye with your man? He would tell you he doesn't feel appreciated by you or how the relationship isn't what it could be. No matter how hard you try to save the relationship, your man still feels that you don't get him. Slowly you're drifting apart, and you don't have a clue why.

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It could be a number of things. Maybe things aren't as passionate as when you first met. It was so much easier back then! But as the years go by it's getting difficult for you to show your man that you care about him.

Based on The Five Love Languages, there are five ways that people express their love for one another. Depending on your boyfriend's love language there can be a serious disconnect between you two. Your efforts of giving him the attention he needs will go to waste if it's not a love language he understands. 

Your love language can be physical, meaning you need a person to hold you, and that's how you show your boyfriend that you love him. But what you don't know is that your boyfriend's language can be entirely different from yours. His love language might be words of affirmation, and he would love it if you'd compliment him or told him you love him. If you don't know your boyfriend's way of showing love it could be like you two are speaking different languages.

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If you changed your own love language to fulfill his needs better, your relationship would flourish. To be a great girlfriend you have to know him like the back of your hand. You will begin to figure out what your boyfriends love language is and how to cater to his own language. Once you start knowing love language, your relationship will thrive. You'll find it easier to show him how much you care. He won't know what hit him!

Here's how to be a good girlfriend based on your man's love language.

1. Words Of Affirmation

Your man's love language means he really appreciates being told how much you care. When you have time, send affectionate texts about how you feel and he won't be able to get you off his mind. Making simple compliments to him will give him more confidence.

To him, there's nothing sweeter than saying "I love you." Beware: being careless with your words will do an unspeakable amount of damage to your relationship.

2. Quality Time

Your boyfriend is the kind of guy that needs your undivided attention to feel loved. You have to take a break from all distractions and really spend some time with him. You can do something as simple as whipping out his favorite board game and listening to what he has to say. It's important to find out what he enjoys doing the most and then plan on doing it the next time you hang out. Paying more attention to your phone during your date or randomly canceling on him will really hurt him.

3. Receiving Gifts

This doesn't mean that he is materialistic! To him, receiving thoughtful gifts from you means the world to him. It's best to listen to him to see what he likes and make a mental note of it. Getting him his favorite beer will make him feel as if you truly understand him. Or try sending a very sexy picture of yourself. He'll definitely appreciate you for it.

Each gift that you give shows how much love them and know what they like. Never miss a birthday or give thoughtless gifts, or the relationship will be ruined.

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4. Acts Of Service

Your boyfriend loves a woman that will help out in any way she can. Your actions will speak volumes to them. If you can help make their lives just a little bit easier, they will know that you love them. Do something for him. Doing a small chore for him will do wonders for your relationship. Pick up after yourself and clean what needs to be cleaned. Being lazy will be the kiss of death to your relationship.

5. Physical Touch

For your boyfriend, words will fall on deaf ears. He needs you to touch him. This is a guy that likes you to get all touchy feely with him. Not only in a sexual way. He like any form of simple touching from putting your arms around him to stroking his cheek. He needs physical contact to feel that you genuinely want him. Any kind of neglect is unacceptable. 

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Jamille Jones has lived teaching English in Hiroshima, Japan for 2 years. She's an Asian culture enthusiast, chocolate addict, video gamer, and loves to teach for the heck of it.