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"Just say you're a bad girl and call me daddy."
By Aly Walansky — Written on Dec 13, 2017
When you've been with someone for a while, you learn how to push their buttons and get them going. Maybe it's a certain way you touch them, or a certain thing you wear. Perhaps it's a scent or a suggestive movement. But quite possibly, it's something you say.
We chatted with men, asking them what women say that really makes them implode and how to make him orgasm quickly. Some weren't at all surprising, as men love to hear their name spoken or hear you moan in excitement they know they caused.
But others are a wider picture, like just egging them on or encouraging them. Men want to know we want them, and that makes them want us even more.
There's some interesting intel here, and it may be a good time to take notes and try it on your next date night with our own guy.
1. Give me some encouragement.
"What I like to do to encourage her is to give it to her super-slow, almost crazy teasingly slow, at the beginning. Then, starting so slowly, almost involuntarily, only because I just can't help it anymore, as if the body moves of its own will, but still trying to deny it. Then, moving with long, slow, deep strokes, and really pausing with my tip at the entrance for a second or few in between each stroke to let the desire really build.
Then, after a few minutes of eternity like that, it starts to get so crazy good that the tempo naturally wants to increase. I fight the urge, just ever so slowly increasing the pace. As her moans increase in intensity, I'm drawn in even more, and I want to fulfill her desires, so I do. I continue to very slowly increase the pace and my own sexual excitement starts to grow as well, and it becomes positively electric between us, with lust that is so over the top deliciously good.
I can hear her moan ever more in encouragement and desire and I do slowly pick up the pace until I can see that she is about to orgasm very hard. At the point of no return, I double the pace and really go deep with fully satisfying solid thrusts that threaten to send me over the edge too, but I deny myself as she explodes in an uncontrollably strong orgasm that not even she could deny."
2. Tell me you want something different.
"When she tells me she wants anal sex... Boom! Makes me orgasm every time."
3. When she makes a lot of noise.
"I don’t think (from myself and guys I know) that we really respond well to verbal cues in regards to bumping this area up. It’s more a visual/tactile thing; however, noises are the key. From soft whimpers to louder noises during climax to squealing, sounds without the need for words are hot, primitive and don’t have the potential to ruin the moment as words often can/do."
4. Talk dirty.
"Just say you're a bad girl and call me daddy. It may sound cliché, but it gets me going in no time and makes me want more."
5. Be submissive.
"I like it when she calls me 'sir' or 'master.' Acting submissive is always hot, but giving me the sounds to remember is even better."
6. Say my name loud and clear.
"There's something about a hot girl writhing under me and moaning my name that makes me feel like a sex god."
7. Tell me how I make you feel.
"Knowing I'm giving you pleasure increases my pleasure and brings things to the very next level."
8. Tell me dirty stories.
"One girl I messed around with liked when I told her about other girls I'd had sex with while we were messing around. That really turned me on too!"
9. Change positions.
"There's magic in a lot of things: copulative noises (uhhhhh, uhhhh), speed, Kegel squeeze down and position. While all of them are pretty great, moving behind (or on the side if we're feeling lazy) is a fantastic coup de grace."
Aly Walansky is a NY-based lifestyles writer. Her work appears in dozens of digital and print publications regularly. Visit her on Twitter or email her at alywalansky@gmail.com.
