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Bottoms up!
By Rebecca Jane Stokes — Written on Jul 21, 2017
Stuff like anal sex can seem scary if you've never done it before.
But you know what? So can a lot of things both in the world of sex and just in general!
I mean, I vividly remember being slightly nervous around candy corn as a child.
Nowadays it is candy corn that should fear me, and my ceaseless hunger for its sweet, sweet, tri-colored goodness.
It's a shame that anal sex has the reputation it has, first and foremost because it's potentially frightening away people who might love it from ever experiencing its grandeur.
Think of anal sex as the scary house on your block when you were a kid.
For years, everyone swore it was haunted and avoided it like crazy, but then one day, someone went inside and realized that the house could actually give them pretty amazing g-spot orgasms.
Now THAT'S a scary movie I'd watch.
What I'm trying to say is that anal sex doesn't have to be scary.
It doesn't even have to be painful.
The way to make all of your sex dreams come true is to use butt plugs the right way.
I know, that sounds weird, but yeah, there's a right way and a wrong way to use butt plugs.
Keep on a-readin' and you'll find out what criticals stuff you need to be doing with your butt plugs for the best anal sex of your life.
1. Put it in and keep it in.
Unlike other sex toys, butt plugs are designed to go into your butt and TO STAY inside your butt for however long you plan on playing.
This could mean keeping it in there while the two of you play, or it could mean keeping one inside of you all day because your master asked you to.
You can keep them in as long as you want, from a minute to a day.
They aren't designed to do the same sort of in-and-out you might explore with a vibrator or a dildo.
The word "plug" is a good descriptor for what they do.
Don't worry, they can't get "lost" inside of you either, like other sex toys, since all butt plugs come with a flared base to keep it from floating magically up into your person.
2. Learn your anus.
Did you know that your anal opening has the highest percentage of nerve endings when compared to the rest of your anal canal?
Probably not, but now you do!
Experimenting with butt plugs prior to having fully penetrative anal sex will help your grasp what sensations feel good to you, and what don't.
It primes your poop hole to become a pleasure hole, who would've thunk it?
Also, butt plugs are totally inclusive! If you have a butthole, you might find you like having a butt plug put up there!
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3. Stimulate his prostate.
I think it's critical to have an understanding of how to make anal sex hot for you, and I definitely think butt plugs can help with that.
Using butt plugs can also help open up (pun totally intended) your male partners to the idea of anal play.
Whyfore?
Because you can use a butt plug to stimulate his prostate during blowjobs!
Just always ask first. How would you like a surprise object jammed up your chute?
I mean ... I'd enjoy it a lot, but we aren't talking about me. Anyway. Moving on!
4. Hit the spot — the G Spot!
Yup, you're reading that right.
If you just dive right into it, you probably will be in too much of a state to even think about whether or not it feels good.
However, if you play around with butt plugs before doing the very literal nasty, you will discover that by applying the right kind of pressure you can activate your g-spot from behind.
Once you've figured this out with the butt plugs, making the leap to guiding his penis into the right spot should be a breeze.
Well, as much of a breeze as having something put up your butt could ever be, I'll be real.
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5. Don't take any shortcuts.
I get that it can be tempting to do something like, buy a numbing cream for your bottom prior to anal play.
But just don't do it.
Can anal sex be uncomfortable? Absolutely.
Can even inserting a butt plug be uncomfortable? Sure.
But you can minimize that discomfort and focus on the pleasure if you go very, very, very slowly and use a lot of lube.
Don't ever feel discouraged if you can't get a butt plug inside of you comfortably on the first time.
This isn't something that should be rushed.
Is it a challenge? Sure, but it's also sexy as hell.
Take your time — even with your butt plugs — and you are sure to reap MAD anal sex rewards.
