How To Ask Your Guy For The Wild, Kinky Sex You've Always Wanted

It’s so easy (and fun).

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Talking about your sex life is never easy, particularly when you want to try something “new.”

Because you don’t want to sound ungrateful or critical of your partner. You don’t want to make them think you’re saying, “Hey, I am super bored during our sexy time and it’s all because of YOU,” but, at the same time, you do need to communicate to them if you’re just not feeling it anymore. (Or if you’re just feeling the natural urge to experiment.)


And, even if you can get past the awkwardness with your partner and you both decide you want to introduce something new into your bedroom routine… how do you actually do it? How do you tell someone "I'm interested trying out wild, kinky sex" if you normally blush watching Game of Thrones?



Unless you’re both licensed sex experts or card-carrying swingers, it’s not likely that either of you has a lot of experience with, let’s call them, “sexual enhancement techniques.”

You’ve probably heard a lot about sex toys, handcuffs, lotions, and all other manner of fantasy apparel, but how do you know what will work for you?

And, beyond that, how do you even shop for that stuff? Do you order online and trust the Amazon review from the guy with the creepy username who writes in ALL-CAPS? Or do you actually find a local sex shop that doesn’t seem too gross and hope that no one you know drives past while you’re walking to the parking lot?


Why must there be all of this social and logistical awkwardness for something that should be so natural? All you’re looking for is good, positive sex, right?

Fortunately, there’s a better way to handle this problem now and the best part (aside from the sexy stuff) is that it’s not embarrassing AT ALL.

You just have to try out The Nooky Box.

What is The Nooky Box? You know those subscription box services that all your friends are addicted to? Well, the geniuses at Nooky Box decided to use the subscription model to help make it more fun and comfortable to try new things in your sex life.

It’s such a smart idea. They have a team of sex experts and people who are intimately familiar with all of the best sex apparel on the market — sex toys, vibrators, lubes, lotions, and everything else  and they use that knowledge to create curated sexual experiences that arrive in an anonymous box at your door every three months.


The Nooky Box "Sex Is Healthy" Box

You don’t have to worry about being judged. You don’t have to worry about where your sexy stuff is coming from. (Nooky Box only uses the highest-quality and body-safe adult products on the market.)

You don’t have to worry about your partner reading too much into your toy choice. You don’t even have to worry about coming up with any ideas because sometimes that’s the hardest part. (If you thought picking a place for dinner is hard, try coming up with a sexual fantasy scenario off the top of your head.)


You just receive your Nooky Box, which are all designed around a specific theme, and you PLAY.

That’s it. You try new things. And, more often than not (trust us), you’ll both discover something you’ve never tried before that immediately becomes your new favorite thing EVER.

And, if you’re looking for something more specific  rather than their recurring box of surprising pleasures — The Nooky Box has a lot of options for you.


The Nooky Box Lube Signature Box

Nooky Box is actually running an Indiegogo campaign right now for their new line of Signature Boxes. These are boxes you can order individually and that are all designed around certain themes. Some are wild and kinky and others are more romantic and personal.

For example, if you want to explore with sex toys on your own, they have a Bro or a Betty Box that makes self-pleasure so much more fun. They have a special Travel Box, an all-glass toy box (you’ve got to try it once), a Kink box, a box for women in menopause… they have so many options.

You should definitely check out their Signature Box campaign because they just make sex exploration so easy and so much fun.


The Nooky Box Glass Signature Box

And isn’t that how it should be?

We shouldn’t let our social anxiety and personal hang-ups stop us from trying to make our sex lives more exciting.

But I get it. Things get awkward, it’s a hard topic to broach  despite the best efforts of Salt-N-Pepa, as a society, we’re still not amazing when it comes to talking about sex.


That’s why I’m so glad a service like Nooky Box exists. It lets couples explore new sexual frontiers without any of the usual baggage.

It’s a group of hardworking people from Missoula, Montana (really) who just want people to feel good about their bodies and their desires. So they’ve found the perfect way to do that.

Their boxes will take your sex life to the next level and you never once have to set foot in a sex shop or awkwardly describe a half-considered fantasy to your partner.

You just get your box and you play together.

How much fun is that?

Created in partnership with The Nooky Box.