The Key To Being TRULY Attractive To Strong, Independent Women


Whether you've been married 30 years or you've just met, you need to know how to light her up.

Whether you're first trying to "get the girl" or you're already married to her, attraction is important to keep up.

Just because you're married, she promised to love you forever, doesn't mean you should stop trying to be attractive to your spouse. In fact, making sure she wants you may be even more important after you've been together for years. 

Keeping that spark alive is part of what keeps a marriage happy and long-lasting.

The problem is that things change. Life becomes stressful. Baggage accumulates between you two. 

Sex becomes de-prioritized

On top of that, times are changing for all of us!

Regardless of whether you're new together or have been together forever.  The woman you're interested in is probably a heck of a lot stronger and more independent than the generation of women before her.

While it used to be that women needed men for financial security and protection, to earn and provide for them, that's no longer the case.

Now we have women who are independent — who can run a home, have a job, run her life.

She doesn't need a guy.

So if the modern strong woman doesn't need a guy, how can men make themselves more attractive so women want them?

This is the very topic Senior VP of YourTango ExpertsMelanie Gorman, asked a group of Experts in our latest Expert video (which you can watch above). 

The responses from — Melissa WhiteKira GouldJohn Gray, and Susan Bratton  — offer two simple tips for how a husband (or any man) can become more attractive to a strong woman.

The Experts break it up into two steps.

1. Show her you can take care of her.

Notice the word can — not need to.

A strong woman may not need anyone to protect her — after all, she can slay her own dragons. But that doesn't mean she wants to be in control every second of every day.

Need somewhere to start in being the hero with a woman you're dating?

Try being the one to bring a condom on a date.

Seems simple, yes. But women now feel like the responsibility is on them to carry it with them when they go out.

If you bring one, you're not only showing her you think she's sexually attractive but that you are able to provide (at the very least, a condom of your own).

Now THAT will turn her on!

There is nothing sexier than a man who can provide, even if we don't need him to.

2. Have a passionate purpose to your life.

Be ambitious and passionate about something (other than her, of course). Be it your aspirations for work, or learning to play an instrument.

Why do you think women like musicians and actors?

Ok yeah, part of it is looks ... but it's also because the passion a guy can show while strumming his guitar can be the same passion he strums you.

So find something to drive and move you. Something authentic.  

Soon you'll see how much more attractive women will find you. Even if that woman is your wife

It might sound like these are too easy to work, but trust the experts. They know what they're talking about, and they have even more to share in the video above!

If you are having trouble with relationships, sex, attraction or anything else, please visit the websites of our Experts and contact KiraSusanJohn, and Melissa directly. They’re here to help.