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If You're Not Sure If It's Love Or Lust, Ask Yourself These 5 Questions

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Don't Say 'I Love You' Until You Can Honestly Answer These 5 Q's
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Love is a tricky emotion.

By Nichole Fratangelo

When the stars align — or when Tinder works in your favor — a new man will enter your life, bringing on a whole new slew of ups and downs. But will it be lust (that deep craving for sex or for another individual) or love (a true, genuine connection and caring for another)?

Though lust vs. love are two ideas that overlap, they are far from one in the same. Can you tell the difference between love and lust? We're breaking it down once and for all.


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Ask yourself these questions, and if you can't honestly come up with an answer, you might want to consider if what you're feeling isn't what you think.

1. Is it only about sex?

Of course, having chemistry in the bedroom is of the utmost importance, but an obsession or fixation on sex can be detrimental. After time, you and your partner will get bored or always be looking for the next best thing in bed.

2. Do you keep secrets?

A couple in love has no walls, boundaries or secrets. Oftentimes, a couple in lust holds back their true self.


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3. Do you have a deep, lasting friendship?

If so, you may be well on your way to loving your partner. A relationship built on a foundation without friendship has little to fall back on.

4. Do you often feel jealous or needy?

A couple in love is one that trusts one another, regardless of the situation. A couple in lust who looks only to sex often finds reasons to be jealous of others' wandering eyes.

5. Do you expect perfection from your partner?

Being in love means being accepting of every flaw, imperfection and otherwise from your partner. Those in lust, however, often expect them to look perfect, perform perfect, and act perfect around friends and family for the relationship to appear good.


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Nichole Fratangelo is a writer and social media specialist focusing on food, health, lifestyle, and travel.

 

 

This article was originally published at Latina. Reprinted with permission from the author.

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