5 Ways To Know If He Likes You (Or If You're Just A Random Hookup)
Is it love, or just plain lust?
getty Is there anything more thrilling than hooking up with a guy for the first time? I mean, probably having someone skillfully throw knives at you during some sort of circus spectacle, but let's be real, that's not going to happen for most of us.
Hooking up with a hot new dude probably is. Once you part ways with your new prospective partner, the REAL work begins. Was this just a one time thing? A random hot hookup? Or was it something more?
You might find yourself wondering how to tell if a guy likes you, though the friends you ask probably wonder the same thing. After all, haven't we all been there. Well fret not, pet. I've got you sorted. Here are 5 ways to tell a guy likes you and your hookup wasn't just a one-night stand.
1. He reaches out.
Here's the beautiful thing about a one-night stand: It's just one night. A beautiful, brief, no-strings hookup. The most chivalrous of dudes might text you to say "thanks," but for the most part you can expect radio silence.
If he reaches out to say hi, see what you're up to, or just check in about anything other than sex. it might not be big love yet, but it could get there.
2. He makes a plan to see you again.
It is a fact commonly known (and just as commonly ignored) that if a man likes you, he'll go out of his way to see you. This goes double after you've met and hooked up, sexually speaking.
If he reaches out to you and makes a concrete plan to see you again, that's one of the best indicators of how to tell if a guy likes you, even after a one-night stand.
3. You hooked up at his place.
Every Casanova worth his salt knows that a one-night stand is better at the girl's house, because then the guy can leave and not worry about hurting your feelings by kicking you out.
If a guy insists on you coming over to his place for your sexy assignation, he might be more serious. If he had no issue letting you hang out at his place, eat all his food, and watch all of the television, that's probably a good way to tell if he's into you.
4. He adds you on social media.
It used to be that if a guy liked you, he would trumpet it from the rooftops or write you on ode or some other nonsense. Nowadays there is no greater sign of post-hookup devotion than an add on Facebook or a follow on Twitter.
If he wants to be your friend on Facebook, that's a good first clue that a guy likes you for more than just a hookup.
5. He makes his devotion clear.
Guys are actually, really, really good at telling you what they want. They'll either say it with words like, "I can't wait to see you again" or in their actions (like never calling you again).
Let him make the next move after your initial fling. If he does, he's definitely into you, or at least, into having sex with you again. He will tell you, in no uncertain terms.
If he's not doing any of these things, it's probably best to chalk it up to one wild night of sexual freedom and move on.
Rebecca Jane Stokes is a writer living in Brooklyn, New York with her cat, Batman. She hosts the love and dating advice show, Becca After Dark on YourTango's Facebook Page every Tuesday and Thursday at 10:15 pm Eastern. For more of her work, check out her Tumblr.