10 Things I Need To Say To My Fellow Tired Special Needs Moms

Whichever day today is, you're worthy, you're good and I see you.

parenting Courtesy of the author

Dear Special Needs Mom,

My guess is that you feel invisible today, that it seems like nobody really knows what your days are like. I know, I've been there. I want you to know that I see you.


1. I see you running your child to therapy when your friends are running their kids to Little League.

2. I see you slipping out of the conversation when your friends are all chiming in about milestones and test grades.

3. I see you constantly juggling appointments and meetings.

4. I see you sitting at your computer for hours researching what your child needs.

5. I see you cringe when people whine about what feels like petty things.

6. I see you spread thin but still going the extra mile for your family.

7. I see you digging for depths of strength you never dreamed you had.

8. I see you showing appreciation to the teachers, therapists and medical professionals who serve your child with you.


9. I see you rising early in the morning to do it all again after another chaotic night.

10. I see you when you're hanging on to the end of your rope for dear life.

I know you feel invisible, like nobody notices any of it. But I want you to know I notice you.

I see you relentlessly pushing onward. I see you keep choosing to do everything in your power to give your child the best possible care at home, in school, at therapy and the doctor.

What you're doing matters. It's worth it.

On those days when you wonder if you can do it another minute, I want you to know I see you. I want you to know you're beautiful. I want you to know it's worth it. I want you to know you aren't alone.


I want you to know love is what matters most, and you have that nailed. And on those days when you have breakthroughs, those times when the hard work pays off and success is yours to cherish, I see you then too, and I am proud of you.

Whichever day today is, you're worthy, you're good and I see you.


Alethea Mshar is a writer, a runner a gardener, and a special needs mom. She can be found on Twitter as leemshar, on Facebook as Alethea Jo Mshar. Follow her blog at Ben’s Writing, Running MomHer View From Home, and The Mighty.