Don't Waste Your Words On People Who Deserve Your Silence

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I want everyone to repeat the following after me: stop chasing people who don't deserve to be chased. 

I can't tell you how many girls I meet who want advice about what to do with a guy who so clearly isn't into them. They overanaylze those late night Snapchats and make a million and one excuses for reasons why they haven't taken them on an actual date yet.

It's sad, unnecessary and it needs to stop. 

Why we waste time on guys who don't like us is a question I don't know if we'll ever really answer. Most of it, in my own experience, is out of insecurity and a fear of ending up alone.

We cling to people because it seems better than just clinging to ourselves. 

I don't know that those feelings will ever go away. I think in the back of our minds, we'll always be a little afraid that there isn't someone special out there for us. It's fine, and it's human to feel that way, but it shouldn't keep you in a place where you're begging for attention. 


You should never have to convince someone to want you or listen to you or understand you. The whole point of being in a relationship is to have those things, no questions asked. The person who wants to be with you will make an honest effort to learn what it is you need to feel loved.

If a guy isn't putting in a little work, it's because he doesn't really want to. 

If you're feeling the urge to write a novel text your boyfriend who just isn't getting it or reach out to that guy who stood you up three weeks, please don't. Please. Don't. 

Falling into that emotional BS you're feeding yourself won't do you any good.

If you send that text or make that call, there's a good chance you'll regret it.

You should never make relationship decisions purely out of emotional insecurity. If you have a strong feeling about something, sleep on it. Take a day or a night to make sure that's the best thing to do and that you're not behaving a certain way just because you're lonely. 

You're awesome and wonderful and you shouldn't have to make someone understand that.

Wait for the person who sees it on their own.